100 Ways to Annoy Somebody With Asperger's Syndrome

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24 Feb 2011, 9:11 pm

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158) Say things like "we'll see" "maybe" and "probably" in regard to making plans with them for the day

I have done this to my daughter :oops:

. Understandably, she hates it. I try to minimize the times I have to say it by not discussing any plans until they are definate. Unfortunately, I am unable to stop doing it entirely. There are times when a plan is contingent on something else happening that is not within my control. For those times I explain the contingencies and try to make it as clear an "if/then" scenario as possible. Still, it drives her nuts if I can't just say "yes" or "no".

My mom has to do this to me (AS) and my little brother (not AS, but very rigid). We both hate hearing "maybe" but if she gives a definite "yes" or "no" it makes it that much worse if plans have to change.

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24 Feb 2011, 9:11 pm

Janissy wrote:

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158) Say things like "we'll see" "maybe" and "probably" in regard to making plans with them for the day

I have done this to my daughter :oops:

Of course it's impossible to avoid doing this. ….because there are a lot of uncertainties in life (unfortunately

) Intellectually I know this ,but I still get very anxious when I don’t know exactly what I am going to do/eat etc. in a given day (which is sometimes dependant on my mom). I actually feel a lot better when my mom explains the contingencies. I finally explained this to her recently. I am 26 years old by the way :oops:

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24 Feb 2011, 9:28 pm

daydreamer84 wrote:

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158) Say things like "we'll see" "maybe" and "probably" in regard to making plans with them for the day

I have done this to my daughter :oops:

Of course it's impossible to avoid doing this. ….because there are a lot of uncertainties in life (unfortunately

Funny enough, that never bothered me. It was something my mom learned to do after an incident where she said we could do something and then it turned out we couldn't do it and we were all upset by it. So mom learned to say it and then think about it and decide. She also learned to do it when she was unsure because she didn't know what to expect herself.

This is so impossible to not do.

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24 Feb 2011, 9:29 pm

177) Make something acceptable to do and then all of a sudden decide it's unacceptable
178) Teach an aspie something that is part of the social rules and then tell them years later it's not okay

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24 Feb 2011, 9:39 pm

Rearrange the tables in the lunch or break room.

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24 Feb 2011, 9:50 pm

180) Tell them to stop it when they start having a meltdown
181) Tell them to shut up about their obsessions and then get mad at them for not ever talking
182) Tell them no one would want to be around them if all they ever talk about is their obsessions/special interests and then get mad at them for not wanting to be around people
183) Get mad at them for interrupting and then get mad at them for not speaking enough in conversations
184) Tell them "none of your business" when they try and take interest
185) Tell them they are being selfish for having a meltdown over an abrupt plan you just did

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24 Feb 2011, 10:23 pm

186. In a relatively new relationship, the first time you stay over at their place, wake up a while before them, and have them wake up to find you've spent the last hour rummaging through their things!

187. After you've awoken them, hold up one of said things that was put away in a box or something, and ask "What's this?"

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24 Feb 2011, 10:47 pm

188. ask them questions just to make them feel akward. like getting questioned to talk about your feelings only to realize they just wanted to judge/mock you and didnt actually care

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24 Feb 2011, 11:27 pm

189. If you run a camp or whatever, start a buddy system rule.

190. Cough, clear your throat, sneeze, or not tell your whiny child to shut up in a library/ church service/ waiting room/ classroom.

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25 Feb 2011, 4:34 am

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85) Tell them they shouldn't have kids because they have AS

My mum did this last year when I told her I had As. (I had just been forced out of my job by bullying and was at a particularly ;ow point. I am childfree because of sensory issues and because i think parenthood is a serious responsibility.) her response - " It's just as well you never had kids - they could have been autistic." I hate my mother.

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25 Feb 2011, 4:47 am

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134) Never directly ask for help. Instead, mention that you will be doing something and assume that it will be understood that you are really asking for help with that task.

Goodness I never knew that. Now I know.

That's one of those funny rules. Sometimes it is a request for help, sometimes it is not. You are just expected to know which it is.

152) Whistle loudly in the restroom
153) Whistle loudly anywhere indoors
154) If they are with a friend of the opposite gender, interrupt and monopolize said friend
155) Try to get your credit card out and complete a transaction without interrupting your cell phone conversation

OMG THANK YOU for mentioning whistling! That drives me absolutely crazy! I work in a book store and for whatever reason weird old men think it's appropriate to wander around whistling random notes there all the time. This feels like someone is sticking pins (or something bigger than pins, depending) through my ears directly into my brain. I usually just try to "run away" to another part of the store but that doesn't always work, like when I'm working the cash register. Sometimes I want to ask them to stop, but I suspect that would go over poorly.

Sorry for blathering.

You're not blathering. I also hate it. I used to work n the same organisisation (he didn't work) as a guy who did this constantly. It was loud and high pitched. You could hear it from the other side of the building. But if I complained I was being horrible and un -PC , and I should just HTFU and get over it because this bigotted, racist, sexist , manipulative P***k was apparently " disabled". For this and many other reasons I left that company.

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25 Feb 2011, 11:53 am

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93. Tell them you think Adolf Hitler may have been aspie.

94. Tell them you think Jesus Christ may have been aspie.

95. Tell them you think Sarah Palin may be aspie.

96. Tell them you think Ghengis Khan may have been aspie.

97. Tell them you think Rasputin may have been aspie.

This. Your intentions are noble but misguided.

OK, so maybe I should have bundled all those names together under one number ... but I was making a point about how repetitive the whole business of making retrospective amateur diagnoses of dead people can get. I think IT's noble but misguided.

I agree with you. I was using "your" to refer to a hypothetical NT. hth. ^_^

Ah, I get you. Being ironic can be a complicated business online, can't it? Especially if your AS makes you less able than an NT to spot irony even in real life :lol:

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25 Feb 2011, 12:47 pm

191. Imply that they must be a pampered white kid when they are neither white, remotely wealthy, nor a kid. :lol:

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25 Feb 2011, 2:41 pm

192. make a lot of avoidable body noises. Gulping when you drink, chewing loud and making gulping chewing sounds. clearing throat/reverse-blowing your nose (sucking snot down your throat) repeatedly.

193. Kinda goes with 192, be old or gross or both and wear flip-flops. Not only do I get to look at your nasty feet, I get to hear the sound of stank moldy rubber slapping their yellow calloused bottoms. Be in front of or behind me in a long quiet hallway is the best way to annoy me good by giving this one some duration.

And wow I can't stand whistling either.

VVV haha and now that I've made you think about it you're going to be cursed with being hyper-aware of people doing this all the time for the rest of your life VVV

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