You can control your "meltdowns"

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I do not cry my eyes out, on purpose. It's very hard for me to stop crying, during a meltdown and I don't need the Michael Savages of the world, to be telling me otherwise.

Once a meltdown gets started, it's impossible for me to stop. It has to run its course. However I can avoid meltdowns by removing the things that trigger them and taking my meds.

Somehow this has to do with me in familiarity. My family thinks when I cry when I'm stressed I'm doing it for sympathy or guilt. Or that I am crying crocodile tears. That I am purposely trying to get out of something. But the truth is I can't take it and people hound me and hound me and hound me. So then I go into a freaking meltdown because no one seems to understand.

Griff and Clyde, i can relate. Have told my big story in a few other places, so wont repeat it here. Let's just say no-one supported me when i brought the idea of Aspergers (and associated research) to them, after 6 months of intensive pondering and pursuit.

Conflict. Meltdown. Trust and Faith down the toilet.

People have gotten mad at me for my meltdowns acting like I could stop it and all and I wasn't controlling it. Like I said, if I wasn't controlling it, I be a lot worse and doing all those things but I don't think they even realize it.

I even hate having public meltdowns, it's embarrassing.

I do avoid having them though by avoiding situations that would cause them. My husband thinks it's running away from my problems. I should tell him next time would he force someone who has seizures to be in a situation that would cause them to have a seizure or else they are running away from their problem? Or I should tell him instead him moving to day shift or swing shift is running away from his problems because he gets seizures when he doess't get enough sleep and he can't sleep during the day so therefore he runs away from his problems so the easy solution to that is having to get enough sleep and not working graveyard.

Do you know how painful it is, after a seizure? Or how it affects your nerves and muscles in the long run (I didn't know but now i know).
If you haven't experienced it does not mean it don't exist.

This is a autism/asperger forum, we don't need people like YOU.

How i wish Aspergia exists.

My whole family doesn't believe one cent that I have aspergers. But I have been like this all my life. And realize how many of the symptoms and everything fit me. I behave just like every Aspergers and this is the first real time I have felt connected and that I have met people going through the same thing as me.

Same here. This forum site was a god-send.

"I've noticed that many people on WP talk about their "meltdowns" as events that happen to them, like a seizure or a stroke, and not something they can control. I had a stroke. I had a seizure. I had a meltdown.

Give me a break. What you really did was throw a tantrum. How pathetic."

I can not control my meltdowns. it would be helpful if I could. I have given my self black eyes. I am not awear of doing this at the tiem. I have given my self concusion. I have scratched my face till it is bleading all over many times. I have scars on my body from scratchign. Somtiems they hapen and if somthign is in my hand that can be worse beucase I do not always let go. I have been holding a bag of coins one tiem. my hand with the bag of coins smashing into my head. I was not well after that. It takes a long time afte to get to a time when any comunication can hapen again. I can also attak others. If I am stressed a person touching me can be enough. I am not very awear of what hapens. People tell me after. Beucae it is like broken bits of thigns that make no sence. I normaly fall to the groudn durign these. I can not walk any mroe often. during a melt down I can not think good enough to walk. Somtiems I scream. It is not patheic it is terrible. It is hard. There has been improvemnt. but that was more changing my life. If I am stresed then they can still hapen jsut as much.

Same. It felt at times like I am going crazy.

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Seems me, there's not just things we can control and things we can't. There's two more groups... things we can influence. And things we can't control/influence right now, but which we can learn to control/influence. Or is that 3 more groups?

Point being... there's a difference between being able to control something, versus being able to learn to control in, so that, sometime in the future, one will be able to control it.

Or, same thing for learning to influence.

Some things we need a learning process before we can do.

Now, not having experienced a meltdown, I don't know how that fits with meltdowns. But, from what I've read, it seems meltdowns varying in their nature, so, I'm guessing how much control/influence one can learn depends on the person and the nature of the meltdown.

But, if one could just do it, without any learning how, seems to me they would, and there wouldn't be a meltdown.

Pathetic is my middle name.

And please, realize that not everybody's experience will be the same as yours.

A tantrum is what people do to get their own way. Yes, I had many of these as a kid. As an adult I just whine but get over it.

I can keep my meltdowns internal. It cost a lot to my overall physical health though. It's like an anxiety attack.

Lately though, I've had to get them out. I never take it out on anybody. I remain quiet until alone and let it go.

A meltdown for me is when all these different stressful things happen (as well as stress from light/ noise/ crowds) and coalesce into one gigantic irrational emotion that makes my head want to explode. Actually banging it with my fists or against a wall does make me feel better. I've still not worked out why that is. Perhaps the pain is a distraction?

There are some things we can't control. Like when an NT gives their opinion of you. They just can't help it. They've got to say it, even if they know it may offend.
Oh, now I understand my poor sister. I should give her a book on self-control.

Anyway, someone that is more affected by autism and doesn't have my level of self control may not be able to control a meltdown.

Meltdowns can occasionally be controlled, but not usually, at least in my experience. Most of the time, when suddenly thrust into an overwhelming, unexpected situation, I'm unable to take myself out of it. If that were the case, I would be able to hopefully keep it at bay a bit, but that's not normally possible.


Meltdowns are not the same at all as temper tantrums. Temper tantrums are a behavior that children, (& some adults) exhibit for the soul purpose of bringing attention to themselves or something similarly negative. A meltdown is something that occurs when a person suddenly has a sensory overload. It's not something that can normally be stopped.