You can control your "meltdowns"

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I was finally able to by the time I reached my 30's.

bury the troll please

Why is the word, meltdowns in quotation marks? Do you prefer the term, "Temper tantrums"? That is so 1950s.

I don't think they're gonna answer. It's been three years. It's done. Why did it have to be bumped up anyway?

Meltdowns are different from simply losing your temper.

If you were pissed at someone and lashed out - that's losing your temper.

If you were overwhelmed by too much sensory input, touch, fear, and you panic and start lashing out - That is a meltdown.

Yes, if you are SLIGHTLY beginning to have one you can leave the room, put in earplugs or dark glasses, etc. Not everyone slowly segues up to one and has the opportunity to control it. I can go from normal to overload easily. I don't have meltdowns usually, just 'lockdowns' but the process is pretty much the same.

I used to cry alot asa kid, as a male that was unacceptable as i got older though. Gradually i started feeling anger alot, eventually rage, and i tried not to cry becaues it lead to disapproval and shaming. I was bullied too, and subject to physical discipline, sometimes harsh. So i learned to act out aggressively, eventually developed what felt like rage attacks when stresses built up. I still cried sometimes when i could (th crying had become wailing moreso), but mostly rage.

One thing that helped me was comming to terms with saddness and finding a way to feel it safely, that has helped alot. So did meditation, yoga, just general mental/spiritual hygene. However, the last few months the pain has been unbearable, i been dealing with suicidal ideation etc, so i have lost it a few times and smashed a few plates and cups, hit my hand against a few walls (ouch), gotten really hostile to some people, etc. Other times i've had a horrible aching wailing where i felt like i was going to die. I'm currently on neuroleptics and antidepressants and thinking about getting back into meditation religiously. the Neuroleptics have gotten rid of alot of the negative thoughts and despair that were surrounding my decompensations/meltdowns.

everyone has a different symptom to a different degree and may see things in a totally different way then you, for that harsh post at the top. Can you control it, well if it has not caused anything bad to happen it would be more difficult. For me, i had outbursts, throwing things punching holes in walls, i am still learning to control it. I usually punch a desk now as to avoid breaking anything but my hand lol. It took one really bad incident to get it threw my head that i can't react so poorly. However i do not know if the next big incident will cause any stress as such. I have been doing well. You have to follow your inner voice, look deep, real change takes monumentous efforts. and we luckily get to work 3x as hard for anything that anyone else does. Atleast u realize its unacceptable, thats always the first step, you can change almost anything you want, just a lot of work, heck, i have a lifetime of work ahead of me. But then again you may not be able to control it yet, maybe your not ready, or it hasn't caused enough grief. Maybe you simply cannot control it, have u ever felt grief afterward or done something u really regreted yet?

My meltdowns happen on the spur of the moment. I can control them to a certain extent, but when I have PMT they become more uncontrollable, because I can easily cry. Otherwise, all through the cycle I can be quite thick-skinned and try not to let anything get to me or bother me. But when I have that tearfulness, it's just impossible to control an outburst, especially when something triggers it off.
Usually my meltdowns are triggered off by fears. For example, one of my worst fears is snow. If it is forecasted snow for the following days, it sends me into either a panic attack or a meltdown (or both), depending on where I am with my emotions. When I have a meltdown, though, it's like my brain says, ''oh my god - you deal with this problem on your own, Josie - I'm shutting down!'' and then I'm left with no choice but to emotionally melt down. You know if somebody literally took your brain out you will mostly likely collapse onto the floor and die? Well, that's what I do emotionally (not die, as such), but it's similiar. My bran shuts itself down and so there's no thoughts there to make me stop and think, ''hang on a minute - I will be upsetting my family if I start another meltdown. Maybe I can just sit here and try to solve the problem myself.'' No - my brain doesn't do that. That's why I hate my brain, and if it were possible to swap brains with a NT, I would.