Unacknowledged comments and repetition

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I seriously think NT's somehow unconsciously condition themselves to be interested in whatever everyone else is interested in for the sake of forming social bonds. Why else do 95% of guys like to talk about professional sports? How can they all be that into something so utterly boring?

I also tend to repeat myself when others don't acknowledge what I've said. Especially if I think it's a good point. I wasn't really aware I was doing this until my boyfriend started pointing it out to me.


I doubt that it's always unconscious. I've known people to develop an interest in something all of a sudden because a potential boyfriend or group of friends was into it. I do agree, conversations about sports are extremely boring.

I get upset in social situations when I come up with some commentary that I think is clever, important, and/or insightful but nobody adds to what I say or gives additional feedback. I feel that when I invest energy into talking I want feedback and when I don't get it I assume nobody listened or understood me. I always feel frustrated, maybe even slighted.

Also, when the same topic which lead to the comment the first time comes up later on I often repeat my original comment a second time almost word for word. Now that I've had the chance to interacted with other aspies I realized that many of them do the same thing, repeating the exact same joke or story to the same audience multiple times.

I'm not sure exactly what it is but for me the motivation to repeat is a sense that I need to make sure, for certain, that everyone got chance to hear my comment. It's like it takes so much mental investment to come up with a clever comment that I just can’t get over it when I don't feel acknowledged. NT's are always more at ease and are able to move on more quickly than I ever can because the interaction requires so little effort on their part.

I'm looking for feedback from both aspies and NT's here.