childish behavior

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My tantrums can get a little on the childish side.

I jokingly tell people that I have Peter Pan Syndrome... I don't ever want to grow up. It's true in a way. Intellectually speaking, I am mature. Emotionally speaking, I'm a train wreck at times. But Lord knows I try...

One of the most common thoughts I have is "Oh my God, they think I'm an adult!"

But like others have said in this thread, I tend to perceive everything in much simpler terms than the people around me, to the extent that some of my friends actually want to know my opinion (gasp!), because they know it'll give them a different perspective on the situation at hand.

Sorry, for the double post, but I missed this.

Yes, I get that too. It's like I missed the cutoff point at which I "officially" became an adult. As a 19-year-old who looks 40, I am considered to be an adult by nearly everyone I meet. It's always a shock to them when they see my behaviour, and how much it doesn't suit the way I look. I'm actually quite loud and erratic in my speech and movement, as well as being clumsy.

So, when I'm not interacting with anyone, I may stand perfectly still and say absolutely nothing, but when someone wants to talk, it all goes haywire.

Some little kids that recognized me from somewhere were pestering me. I didn't mind because they were just playing around. Anyway, I was 17 at the time, and their Dad came along and said, "Leave the man alone." Huh? Does he have other kids that are pestering someone else? No, he was talking about me. I couldn't bite my tongue. I said, "I'm not a man." He stared blankly at me for a second, grabs his two kids by the hands and walks off quite fast. I didn't realise until later that he probably thought I was a transsexual.

I'm 40, am told I look like low 30's and act like my 20's. Seriously, I am a child. I spent 5 days dancing around with my new AS friend to the "Bare Necessities" from the Jungle Book soundtrack, for God's sake!

Sorry, for the double post, but I missed this.

Yes, I get that too. It's like I missed the cutoff point at which I "officially" became an adult. As a 19-year-old who looks 40, I am considered to be an adult by nearly everyone I meet. It's always a shock to them when they see my behaviour, and how much it doesn't suit the way I look. I'm actually quite loud and erratic in my speech and movement, as well as being clumsy.

So, when I'm not interacting with anyone, I may stand perfectly still and say absolutely nothing, but when someone wants to talk, it all goes haywire.

Some little kids that recognized me from somewhere were pestering me. I didn't mind because they were just playing around. Anyway, I was 17 at the time, and their Dad came along and said, "Leave the man alone." Huh? Does he have other kids that are pestering someone else? No, he was talking about me. I couldn't bite my tongue. I said, "I'm not a man." He stared blankly at me for a second, grabs his two kids by the hands and walks off quite fast. I didn't realise until later that he probably thought I was a transsexual.

When I was younger I was frequently called immature and often told to grow up. And even though I'll soon be turning 60, I still have that feeling of being just a big, excitable kid in adult clothing, and still being told to grow up, too.

I am REALLY immature in many ways. I always have to get my own way (I rarely do though!) I dress in clothes for young girls, I play with toys, watch cartoons and bounce around getting wayyy over-excited! On the other hand people say that I am 'wise beyond my years' and always have. I'm quite lucky because although I am 21, I look 12 years or younger. Heck most of my clothes are for 10-11 year olds and fit just fine!

Yup. I'm very childish. I still love toys, and cartoons, and kid stuff.

Children tend to behave in a way that is "natural." They are not very influenced by outside factors, like what society says that one should behave. Aspergians are also not as influenced by societal influences compared to the Neurotypical majority. Therefore Aspergians behave in a way that is similar to children: naturally. At least compared to NTs.

I also agree with the previous posts which say that Aspergians act more mature than their peers in some ways.

i behave like a child, or a toddler, not because i want to, always am like this, i didnt notice until actually lately that how i behave is very childlish.

Yeah I am pretty immature emotionally and act like a big kid, I like lego, dolls, spongebob etc. I am now using public buses and walking around on my own because I've started college and everytime I get on the bus I feel all excited and "grown up" like a child would when they buy something themselves for the first time, last time I went shopping I used the bus and when I met my friend I said "I went on the bus myself this time! didn't have a lift!" in this "I'm a big girl now" voice . I asked that same friend how old I act once when I was feeling self concious and he said 14 but inside I feel 13 even 12 at times.
What doesn't help my emotional maturity level is that I'm prone to tantrums at home and can get all screamy and stompy, don't choose to though it just happens and I f*****g hate it.
I also feel like a child when I'm with girls my own age like their little niece or something which is why I hang out with boys usually younger ones, I feel much more at their level.

But I am above my peers intelligently/intectually and I enjoy mature discussions on MSN where as others the same age just want to rabbit on about boring things like drinking. And I'm a bit like an old fart in that I don't want to go out clubbing at 2 am drinking and I'm not really into superficial nonsence and turn my nose up at it while I express my views verbosely on intellectual matters like religion and stuff.

Basically my maturity is bodged up big time.