do you think you talk a bout yourself too much?

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NO!

Its not so much that I talk a lot about myself, but sometimes I'll go markedly extroverted, my voice quality will shift to more of a teenagers register, my normal level of sagacity or social savvy will drop away, I'll be overly revealing of my personal life as if I'm amongst close relatives (To Much Information), oblivious to the social environment or social role I'm engaged in, I'll forget that I'm NOT surrounded by best friends.

It's not obvious to me when it's happening... I'll totally screen out the eye rolling, smirking, or other body language rejection Q's from others, (things that most people "just know") by presuming I'm just being socially paranoid about it.


So, I'll just come off occasionally as a just a bid odd, or socially inept, and uncool. Only by reviewing the days events, usually before sleep, will I realize when I was /being a dork/.

Only sometimes depending on what mood I'm in.... if I get excited, I end up going over the top about myself...

I do pretty much all the time. But i don't really notice it while i'm doing it, because i'm just doing what seems most natural, but afterwards when i think about interactions i've had i realize that i do it a lot. My technically-"NT"-with-autistic-traits dad does this too. I've gotten better at asking people questions about themselves, and i do often.. but it seems like when i get on a certain topic and feel like i want to say something bout myself or something i'm interested in, i still have a huge tendency to go on and on.

Sales professionals know that one of the keys to communication is that people generally like talking about themselves and that;

'The prospect isn't very interested (this is the polite version) in what the salesperson 'thinks'.

I have studied the communciations research that backs this up and found it to be logical and found that it WORKS.

Somehow I have managed to control my impulse to give lectures when I am engaged in business.

I've also noticed that people will often comment on how 'interesting and nice' a person is when they have been speaking with someone who is a good listener, even when the listener has perhaps said almost nothing!

I'm technically a "sales professional" and don't know any of that stuff, lol. I just answer questions that people ask and elaborate if i have any in-depth knowledge or personal experiences with a certain video game or other product, and try to come up with some questions about what kind of video games they like to play, what kind of tvs they've had in the past, or whatever. I do sometimes, even at work, manage to start going on about my reptiles or something, though. I've discovered that whenever i have to ring someone up and they have a bag of dog food or dogs toys in their cart, that i can ask which pets they have, and then after they respond, that's the perfect opportunity for me to talk about mine (i think that steering conversations toward something that i want to talk about is the one social thing that i excel at) I think it might make me seem more personable that i make conversation about other things though, because they don't know that i "make conversation" about the same things over and over again. It works out ok. Some people think i'm really nice and friendly because i try to give my input from personal experiences whenever i can and i try to be honest about things. Then others think i'm rude, because i can't understand what they're saying, don't know that i'm expected to say something, don't have very good eye contact, or something like that.