Intense hatred: AS or a bad childhood?

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Thanks for your replies. I am not sure if the added problem with me is that I get REALLY angry with people's annoying habits. Often, the person I... dislike (I think hate might be a bit harsh) behaves like I used to when I was younger and, being an Aspie, I can't understand why he doesn't just stop it like I did. He's older than me too and I have always been told that older people are kind and respectful (which I found out wasnt true very quickly). The other thing is, this home I am living in is completely inconsistent. If I ever regress into my old behaviour (which he does) such as banging, kicking things and screaming I get a s**t load of abuse from the manager or even restrained but when he does it 'oh that's just the way he is...' I suppose that is just adding to my resentment.

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )

I don't feel intense hatred for anyone and I don't think I ever did. What I feel mostly is astonishment and pain when someone treats me badly. I question how they could have done something so mean and why, what did I do to deserve that treatment. If that person is not in my immediate personal environment I will avoid them in the future, after forgiving them, if they apologize, and giving them a few more chances to redeem themselves and be worthy of my friendship or association. If they hurt me again, they no longer exist to me and it's good riddance. Family members I will forgive and forget as often as they forgive and forget my offenses because that's what love is about. But hate I want no part of. A little anger now and then when it's justified is healthy I think. Revenge seems really an evil concept to me, and a waste of time and energy. Also, people who wish for bad things to happen to other people, even if they don't take an active part in making those bad things happen, are likely inviting those bad things into their own lives as well.

My personal phrase is, "I don't discrimate, I have everybody" and it's true. I am a misanthrope. I was very badly emotionaly abused as a child so I suspect that has something to do with it.

I've had this issue in many social circles - one person, usually charismatic (nay, sociopathic) who I find utterly obnoxious but seem to be alone in that opinion. It gets difficult due to the fact that the individual in question would share a lot of mutual friends with me, so I can't really do anything about them. People would say 'oh, just ignore them' - impossible as individuals like that are just unavoidable. The hatred wells up within me, and there's nothing I can do.

A couple of times I've tracked down these people once we've gone our separate ways and told them to their face that they're weren't as universally loved as they probably thought. Then left them behind forever. Didn't need to do any more than that.

I truthfully have never been able to idenify as a person. I felt as if I was born the wrong species. I wonder if that's why the furry comunity is one of my sepecial intrests. I could care less if I see or hear about two people fighting eachother. If it's an animal fighting a person, I don't feel anything for the person and feel bad for the animal because it will probably be killed too. I'm always getting in trouble for saying animal testing is in any way shape or form but these people lovers think it's okaky for medican reasons because it supposedly helps people. f**k the people. We torture inocent creatures to find answers that are usualy inconslusive but we let set dangerous serieal killers and child mollesters free.

I think it would more likely be external factors, rather than AS.