Extremes in Aspergers

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I swing between high and low self esteem. I have some things where i am good at so i get high self esteem. Other times it is quite low.
I lack in confidence.
I barely talk if there are strangers or people i don't like or know very well around me. I have only 3 or 4 people that i can freely talk to when around, and with them i sometimes even talk too much. I have naturally a very quiet voice.
I was a bit violent as a child, but as i became a teenager i went extremely passive. In recent years i have had 1 extreme violence outburst. I was very depressed. Something in my brain clicked and suddenly i was extremely violent. I physically attacked somebody. But the person i was attacking managed to calm me down.
I am neutral or negative. With friends or trusty people i can be positive.
I do not trust people easily.
Also i am a closed book with strangers and with people i don't like. I am only open with people i know very well, my 2 friends and a younger sister. Sometimes i make an exception when i have to trust somebody.
I am a cynical person.

Hyper and depressive for me, although I think that may be a bit of bipolar.

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Good point. There are extremes for Aspies that I never thought of before. I'm not sure which I fall into I have some of those issues though there's no doubt about that LOL!

I am extreme in everything. No mid range.

It's the inability to judge appropriateness. If someone can gauge, by other people's reactions, the appropriateness of what they say/do, then they're more likely to be able to find a balance. If you can't do that, it's hard not to be an extreme. If you can't see in someone's face if they're being honest or not, how could you have a "normal" level of cynicism? Or if you can't tell if people are interested in what you say, how can you talk a "normal" amount? Not being extreme in interactions requires being able to read people.

I've always been known to go to extremes with everything. Sometimes i even alternate between two opposite extremes, depending on a situation. But i can hardly ever find a happy medium in any aspect of life.

The thing I want to point out that I'm not sure if I properly expressed in what I said before, is that those extremes are pretty arbitrary. They don't necessarily mean actually being extreme so much as they mean being enough that way that others observe it. What's considered "very positive" or "very open" varies by situation and by view of the observer, there's really not a logical or consistent mid-range, you can't select a moderate way to be and then stick to it, because that "moderate" point floats. I'm not saying that aspies can't actually be extreme, but some of that may come from having given up on getting "moderate" right as well as from true extremeness. A lot of people here have scripted responses and behaviors meant to seem more "normal." But what's scripted to be moderate will end up seeming extreme to some people in some situations. (Um, please forgive me if I did say that clearly in my previous post.. I always want to re-word things to make them maybe clearer.)

I vary between extremes in a lot of ways. I'm usually either emotionally detached, or so heightened and hyperactive I can't deal with it.