How do you cope with changes?

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Does coping with changes have anything to do with AS?

I cope with them pretty badly, usually. Like both permanent major changes freak me out a bit, as do schedule changes. I never even realized I was like that until a few years ago when my ex-fiance pointed it out (years after we broke up...she was actually really nice about pointing it out).

For me, it depends on what all is involved.

If it's moving to a nicer place, or a vacation, then I am excited about it.

If it's a friend abandoning me, it's mainly depression. I don't have meltdowns as often as I used to (maybe once every 3-4 months).

I'm no good with it... things in our house change all of the time with the kiddos and all, so I just try to avoid planning things outside of the house. Things changing in the house, well, I've adjusted to the idea that that is just kind of how it's supposed to be, so it might bug me for a few minutes, but after that I'm okay.

Other plans though, I just don't make the decisions, and try not to count on it happening... but at the same time, that doesn't help one bit, because I don't really prepare myself well for it to actually happen, so even if it's planned, it's still like a change because it happened, lol.

I do horrible with it.

It really depends how much time I get to prepare for the change. If I don't have any forewarning, it's very likely that I will freak out.

I don't even like when people come to my house unannounced.

I remember how excited I was when I was moving to a new house... I was so over excited that I couldn't calm myself down.

However the only changes only bothers me if someone changed the planned date, it would simply upset me a little if lucky but it can get pretty bad too at times.

It depends. Some changes I actually welcome like a new hairstyle or newly decorated bedroom or a change of fashion or a nice surprise like my bedroom's been titied while I was out because it's like a fresh start.
But there are certain changes I do NOT like, like if it's an arrangement or plan I've made that is important to me has to be changed or postponed, I don't get nervous or freaked out it's more of a frustration that things didn't go the way they're supposed to and everything's just fallen apart in front of me. Like what superboyian said about his date getting postponed, that kind of thing. Also once I'ver made a decision on something and I'm adamant about it that's it, trying to change that would anger me like when I chose my A levels I was going to do 4 subjects and I had decided months in advance but at my college interview my mum and the teacher were saying I should leave one of them because of the work load, I couldn't believe what they were saying! I suddenly became really defiant and hardly spoke and just avoided even facing both of them and I was trying not to cry or something, I would always keep saying "but I decided months ago I want to do those subjects" in a passive-aggresive way. Eventually they did persuade me so I reluctantly agreed to just do 3 of the subjects and leave the other one until the second year, and I'm glad I did do that now because if I did all 4 I'd be a mess right now.
The hardest change for me was leaving highschool, I remember getting ready for college on my first day and I was crying all morning and wishing I was putting on my uniform and was about to go on the school bus and it would just be like before. I was finewhen I got there though. I had got used to it by then.