NT shopping habits.

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Anomie: My obsessions and trancing-out make me chaotic and forgetful a times. It's like driving and not realising you have passed through a major urban settlement unto you see the exit signs. Organizing food in this way would be logistical necessity if I lived on my own . But I think you can take that logistical principle and apply degrees of it to living with NT's.

Anxiety25: Absolute rationalization in this field is not required on a daily basis. But I do agree with you, there has to be a balance . I have lived with 1 full NT and 2 NT hybrids for a very long time. They can be chaotic but have the faculty to deal with their chaos,and mine, - they would not be able deal with my hyper-rational solution to these kind of problems. So I have come to tolerate their clutter, odd putting away of things and an imprecisely ordered freezer.

Arielhawksquill: There is no way they do not like being organized in a rational manner. They'd kick and rebel against it and find it gently amusing . I got a thing about storage boxes once and they accepted part of the idea , but not all of it. You have to negotiate. Once you give them a storage box you have to let them use it how they see fit.

I'm not bothered by the containers because I can't ever afford enough of them for their arrangement to become a problem.

I shop once a month because I live on Disability and that's when I get paid. My grocery budget is an even hundred bucks and that includes toiletries and cleaning products. Even when my income was better, I've never understood going out to eat or to the grocery store every day. I couldn't stand having to be in a place with that many strangers every single day.

But I don't think I'd care for cooking all day, either - if it can't be prepared from scratch in under half an hour, its more trouble than its worth. I mean, its only fuel - look where its gonna end up...

Perhaps you should re-arrange the way chores are divided up in your house. Clearly shopping is her preferred chore and one you dislike. Maybe she should do all the food shopping and in return you will take on some chore she dislikes.

Cooking dinners for a solid month and freezing them is rational only for the person who doesn't much care if diner is a frozen entree every night and only for the person who doesn't have to face the horrifying chore of doing an entire month's worth of cooking in one day. To me that sounds far worse than cooking dinner every night.

shopping is torture. I despise it.

I could eat the same food every day and it doesn't bother me.

I must say, I think a lot of my organizing skills (what little I had to start with but would love to build up the skill...) left me when I had kiddos.

Now when I get home from the store, my aim isn't to make sure everything fits nicely as I used to-even if it was still cluttered and unorganized... it's more like "quick-unload the bags before the little one climbs on top of them and smashes something! Get everything crammed in there before the older one realizes there are popsicles and tries to dig them out before I can make sure they are secured nicely in place!" lol. I cannot count how many times my eggs have been stepped on, or my bread has somehow... I do most of my shopping for the month at once, so it winds up being quite a bit to carry in and put away alone. There have also been quite a few times when my son goes to grab something out of it before I get everything put up... and a lot of things come flying out on top of me while I'm putting things in the fridge, lol.

There is a rule that they are not supposed to be in the kitchen until I'm done unless they are helping me put stuff up... so they will come in and say they are helping, then swap things out while putting things away.

If it wasn't for them, I don't know that it would always be such a mess. It's not their fault, just my lack of motivation to keep it that way when I have a tornado following me around everywhere I go.

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Very, very accurate metaphor. Very funny too.

Split the storage areas. If you cook too (and we (Aspies) can be wonders with the specific instructions in a cookbook!), SPLIT the food storage areas. His area and her area. Doesn't have to be 50/50, in fact you'll probably need 1/4 the space she does, but splitting this is going to really help your organization and make you feel better about cooking things yourself.

Going in to every single store, is another NT shopping habit that I don't understand.