"Everyone is a bit Autistic"

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The idiopathic only means "no known origin" but yeah, hypersomnia is relatively rare. Interesting. Have they tried you on stimulants? As for your friends, it's SO not hypersomnia if you're sleepy because you didn't get to bed on time last night. If that's true, then every college student in the world has hypersomnia.

I've had problems with circadian-rhythm sleep disorder on and off. It's just so easy for my sleep cycle to get knocked off balance, and then I'll randomly start getting tired at 3 p.m. or not until 8 a.m., or other similarly useless times. When it starts interfering with your life (and mine does, believe me) you can diagnose it. You can't diagnose it if it's just a minor annoyance.

Apparently that's why lots of people think that they've got some problem or other, when they haven't actually got it--they see the subclinical variant, and don't realize that the diagnosis they're thinking about even has a subclinical variant in the first place. Folks with subclinical-variant autism, though, are so much like diagnosable autistics that they fit right in--thus my statement that, "If you don't need help, you don't need a diagnosis; but I've got no problem with calling you autistic"--because the subclinical variant is, culturally though not medically, part of autism.

I hate those lines. They aren't helpful at all and only really makes your problems appear less valid. It's like saying, "Oh everyone has those problems but they still manage. Why don't you?" I told my dad how I felt whenever I would talk about difficulties with his reply of, "it happens to everyone". BS it does! And even if so, does it happen ALL the time to everyone? Try living it.

I've always thought that when people say that, they are just trying to make you feel better, like "Oh, you're not alone". But it's very ignorant, nonetheless.

I think the meaning behind their words is directly proportional to their (potentially ignorant) perception of autism in YOU...

Meaning, if you display obvious/classical/well-known symptoms... then they are just trying to make you feel better via inclusiveness (an attempt to be accepting or something).

But if your traits are less obvious ect...

It can also be meant to be reassuring you that nothing is wrong with you and is meant to be empathetic despite their true lack of empathy.

It's also because generally, in most societies, it's impolite to point out someone's differences except in some cases where the differences are universally considered desirable (like talent or beauty).

So if an average person says to an autistic one, "You're not so different," he's saying that from a background belief that differences are usually bad. It's meant to be a compliment.

Pretty much the same thing with the whole, "autistic kids are good looking." (Not to mention the whole Einstein blah when it's used in that way.)

It's something to make you feel better, but when you look at it, it's insulting to you and many others.