Lonely vs. Left Alone

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Yeah, that really gets my goat. I also hate when I'm waiting in a bar forever to get served despite my being there longer. They can smell my AS.

Last edited by Moog on 23 Mar 2010, 8:53 pm, edited 1 time in total.

And that's because I don't wipe properly.

I just forgot what this thread was about. lol

Um, like being left alone, but I still want interaction.

I am happy being left alone.

I like people caring for me and vice versa, so I don't want total isolation. However, I do value time alone with my thoughts, or to draw or write in my notebook or whatever.

I seem to need quite a lot of alone time, but I get as lonely as anybody would if it goes on for too long.

I crave social situations and feel that loneliness is punishment for something I did or for who I am as a person.

I feel like that sometimes

Me too. I believe in karma, so I was probably an utter A-hole in a previous life.

I think there is a difference between being left alone and being lonely.

Sometimes, I want to be left alone as I have to have my own space at times. I will get a bit more of this now as I now live on my own, so will be able to put more time into my studies and hobbies than I did previous (or thats the theory anyway). However, I don't think anyone ever wants to be lonely as it is a horrible feeling. To me, it feels like rejection. Being lonely is an profound emotional state of mind whereas being left alone is not, that's just when either you or other people (or both) choose to keep your or their distance. You don't have to be alone to feel lonely, you can be in a room full of people and still feel this way. In the past, I experienced this because I was surrounded by people who I didn't care about (or some that I did) and they didn't care about me either. Another occasion is where I have been in a relationship and he didn't care enough about my feelings to even ask how I was yet expected me to give a toss about him. That makes you feel lonely, even though there is someone there, and it's horrible. Whereas, to me, being left alone isn't horrible, it's being made to feel I'm not worth hanging out with or outcasted that's bad, but then that's different again and another issue entirely.

left alone :
i like to be left alone.
i enjoy my own company.
i always agree with my thoughts.
i thinks things that make me laugh.
i think things i find intriguing.
i always have many things that i can entertain myself with.
i never get bored when i am alone (unless i am not at home and i do not have auxiliary peripherals with me).
i dress as i wish when alone.
i eat what and when i want to when alone.
i go to bed when i please when i am alone.
i can act any way i want when i am alone.

when i am not left alone, i feel intruded upon.
when i am not left alone, i feel as if i am restrained by other peoples expectations.
when i am not left alone, i feel displaced from my real self and my own world.

lonliness:
i never feel lonely in my current state of aloneness.
as long as there are plants and animals around me, i feel like my life is an ingredient in the mosaic of life that surrounds me. i feel like i am a deserved part of nature.

if all perceptible life was eradicated from the world, and there was not even a patch of moss anywhere, and the rocks were all barren, then i would feel fatally lonely. i may die of the loneliness that would grip my heart so strong that it ceases to beat.

my life on mars (assuming i am in a biosphere) without any possibility of going home would be worthless, and the miniscule strength required to take another breath would be not worth the huge effort that it would feel like in that situation.

there are some people i enjoy to be with, but i do not crave their company, and i am always relieved to be heading home even if i enjoy the company i was with.

mainly i find people to be so self centered and ignorant, that any noise i hear from them is like a trespass on my peace.

There's a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. Like, even though I never had friends, why should I be lonely? There's my room, my things, my books, and they more than make up for my lack of friends. Plus, having a social life is EXHAUSTING.

I feel very lonely, but I find most human contact very unpleasant, even painful. I really want to spend time with people in ways that are positive and rewarding. It is very hard to have social interaction on the terms that are rewarding to me. I suppose that if I could identify what those terms are, then I would be more successful at finding rewarding interactions.

my teen years was a mix,you were thrown together in school so you had to deal with it,20's I loved to help people then in my30's I stoped caring about other peoples prob. and less and less stoped talking to people.
even when I go to the bar I find myself exploding inside over things I was not only fine with before, I enjoyed helping them.
I still like to help people but now I know I must limit my time with some.

I should say that I'm not digniosed
and Ithink left alone is very nice and where I am now
but I know that if I keep it up that when I need the friends I value
they won't need me!

wow. that is sad. i used to feel that way but now i feel merely that loneliness is a punishing condition of how i behave and who i am as a person.

I view loneliness as either a gift (Solitude) or other people's arrogance and impudence. How dare they not converse with me, isolating me to speak with others! Who gives them the right to do such a cruel thing? No matter, I shall not give them the anger or sadness that they so seek. No, I shall remain stoic/stoical. I shall embrace my loneliness.