How much easier did being diagnosed make your life?

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FTM
Sea Gull

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28 May 2010, 1:13 pm

A light bulb lit up and everything became clear, I understood who I was and why I was that person. Everyone around me benefitted (self diagnosed though, so for some people this means I don't have AS).

Assembly
Sea Gull

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28 May 2010, 1:17 pm

I'm ok with doctors and social service workers to know, I don't want others to know (relatives/family/university /employer etc.). They just look down on me, think of them self as superior and feel pity. I just want help to get on my own feet - I don't want to go party, 'learn' empathy or be in a relationship. It's never been a goal, never will be - I just want to be independent and pursue my interests. I don't want others to tell me what I should want, what I should feel - I'm not stupid, I know what I want, how I can acchieve it - I just need help with practical issues to get ahead in life. If you can't help me with that, back off - I don't need your sympathy or input on how I should live my life. I don't want 'special treatment' at university - I'm a straight A student, my work should speak for itself. I needed the diagnosis to receive the help, so that I won't have to depend on others, what I don't need is for a bunch of hobby psychologists (read: relatives /aquaintances) to think they know me based on something they read on the internet. About other people being understanding? Don't get your hopes up, cuz they're not - atleast not the people I know. They're just as clueless (perhaps even more), yet now they've convinced themselves that you're unable to think for yourself.

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Bowser
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28 May 2010, 1:22 pm

Just the awareness of what AS is and the possibility that I might have it already is giving me hope. I've always been distant from others, unable to form close bonds with anyone, and ridiculed to no end. It answers questions, and I may be able to get some help/advice catered more to a specific issue.

PlatedDrake
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28 May 2010, 1:45 pm

Bowser wrote:

I was about the same way, feeling out of touch with the rest of humanity . . . and not really wanting to. I guess it makes one's perception of life easier when you know that how you see life is due to a different "brain wiring" than the other 99% of the human population. I've been getting help now for about a year and a half and its been a breath of fresh air. There are still some things i have to work out, but I at least know there are ways around a lot of the issues Ive had rather than beating my head against a proverbial social wall.

nick007
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