"Intense gaze"

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Hmm, I think my mom said my look when I was born was "very deep", but never "intense".

well, truth be told....ive ALWAYS had intense eye contact.....eye contacts never been an issue for me, rather : i make waaay too much of it ; without really being conscious of it...

when i was yet little my elders would constantly reprimand me for "staring" and my peers often got upset w/ me like wanting to fight me etc....as a teenager and young adult i finally realized the negative consequences overly strong eye contact can have and tried to check it somewhat...but curbing eye contact requires about as much effort from me as from some aspies who force themselves to make eye contact, and then give up...its almost like its more trouble than its worth....

i tend to "hyperfocus" on people ( and : for that matter , objects as well ), and i know its a powerful gaze.....to add to the problem : i'm south asian and between my sllightly slanted eyes and very bushy eyebrows and sharp, angular facial features....its probably not an over-friendly picture - to say the least

but it is what it is. if i notice myself doing it, i'll stop or avert my eyes. especially if i sense discomfort in the recipient. but i dont like to be bitched at and hated on for something that seems to be <hardwired> into me, nor do i think doing so is justified on their part, THIS MEANS ALL YOU NT'S who give me grief over it; thankyouverymuch.

oh : and to all you "professional providers" and "clinicians" who dis-serviced me and not only failed to diagnose me w/ aspergers 's syndrome but actually RULED it out on account of my eye contact THANKS A BUNCH , i couldve gotten the intervention i desperately needed much earlier; but for failure to recognize my condition.....

i give props to the 83 year old gentleman for coming on here and posting. GOD bless you and i'm always happy when someone who has been wandering lost in a sea of misunderstanding comes to learn about their autism and is finally at peace - yeay 4 you ! !

i sure felt that way when i at last got diagnosed and have spent every day since then in self-acceptance; which brings me closer to loving myself. one day i'll reach self-actualization and become the highly evolved soul i was destined to be AS WILL EVERYONE .

I've been told my eyes are extraordinary by women in my adult/teenage years. And in 5th grade, we were on a fieldtrip where we met a class from another town. All my classmates told me this other guy looked exactly like me, but the only thing about that person which really stood out to me, was his intense big eyes, I couldn't see any other resemblance.

Soo... I guess I had those eyes early.

Funny how childhood memories can be viewed in a totally new light when you know you had Asperger's..

I dislike making eye contact and therefore glance at a persons face occasionally but that is usually it.

However, if a person does catch my attention, I do tend to "stare" (apparently that's what they call it, although I'm just looking), and according to people my look freaks them out. I guess it would be the intensity that is freaking them out.

Colleagues tell me I have freaked out several other colleagues by doing this, and I have had this comment at most places I have worked. Quite frankly, it only seems to be useful on guys I find attractive. Once they notice, they come over to me real quick!

I don't like staring at people and i hate when people are staring at me.

Yes, often happens when I'm focused on stuff. I've also seen other people with AS that do the same thing when they're really interested in something.