Does anyone think you have strange views?

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davethenat
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08 Aug 2010, 8:01 am

When people say "weird" they usually mean "outside of my framework." Since NTs cannot see the world as we do, most of our views will automatically be "weird" to them. However, my wife uses the term when she refers to anything that is not as she commonly understands it. We can move a plant and the area where the plant was will be "weird." Try not to look at it as a bad thing, but simply that you have your own perspective on the world, and since you are you husband are different people, your perspectives will necessarily be different, NAT or otherwise. "Weird" is the only term he knows how to use.

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08 Aug 2010, 8:05 am

I've been both mocked and complimented for my 'bizarre' view of the universe and everything therein. I think a large percentage of people live in a bubble where they purposely try not to examine everything. I, on the other hand, find it almost impossible to prevent my mind from analyzing everything I encounter and incorporating it into my collective views and philosophy.

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08 Aug 2010, 11:50 am

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I'm just more rational and considerably smarter than most of the people I meet. My views aren't strange at all, the rest of the world is just comprised primarily of idiots, so they can't comprehend my viewpoint.

I'm not sure if you're being sarcastic, but that's actually the way I feel too, even though it's incredibly arrogant.

My therapist, who is incredibly stodgy and normal (and a very bad fit for me, but where the hell am I going to find a therapist who isn't, when I've already tried 14 different ones?) thinks I have strange views because I'm intolerant of cruelty, narrow-mindedness, and bigotry. How in the hell is that strange, other than, yeah, it's unusual for people to be moral and ethical and to care about morality and ethics? So I should become stodgy and normal too and give up my values and give up on what I think is important?

Apparently, it's very maladaptive to have strong views and to feel disgusted at the injustice and violence in the world.

(League Girl, I've had the issue about wearing raggedy clothing too. To me, someone who wears expensive clothes or drives a fancy car has "chump" written on his forehead. Why buy into that sort of thing? It only makes you poorer. Save your money for the things you actually care about, rather than on keeping up appearances, is my view. Apparently, that is "strange." I guess it's also "strange" that I don't have any credit card debt...)

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08 Aug 2010, 12:16 pm

bee33 wrote:

My therapist, who is incredibly stodgy and normal (and a very bad fit for me, but where the hell am I going to find a therapist who isn't, when I've already tried 14 different ones?) thinks I have strange views because I'm intolerant of cruelty, narrow-mindedness, and bigotry. How in the hell is that strange, other than, yeah, it's unusual for people to be moral and ethical and to care about morality and ethics? So I should become stodgy and normal too and give up my values and give up on what I think is important?

Apparently, it's very maladaptive to have strong views and to feel disgusted at the injustice and violence in the world.

+10! You are one of the few who dares to say "I refuse to accept that 'that is just the way things are.'"

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(League Girl, I've had the issue about wearing raggedy clothing too. To me, someone who wears expensive clothes or drives a fancy car has "chump" written on his forehead. Why buy into that sort of thing? It only makes you poorer. Save your money for the things you actually care about, rather than on keeping up appearances, is my view. Apparently, that is "strange." I guess it's also "strange" that I don't have any credit card debt...)

+10 also!

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08 Aug 2010, 12:20 pm

Btw, here's where the word "weird" actually comes from:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wyrd

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08 Aug 2010, 2:25 pm

I hate that argument that I am not wearing the correct clothes to go out in public. It is not like I am going to a wedding or something.

My views of the world are seen as strange by some, but they are proof I have a mind of my own. I think my views make good fodder for debate.

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08 Aug 2010, 2:27 pm

I have heard from people, "I would have never thought of that" many times. People say I have a strange way of looking at the world.

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08 Aug 2010, 3:23 pm

Other people might think I do but I'm right and their views are weird. :wink:

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08 Aug 2010, 4:05 pm

I dont bother explaining my views to n/t's unless I have to... I see the world totally different that most sheeple who believe what they are told. The truth is always ironic.

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08 Aug 2010, 6:41 pm

I've come across many people through the years who were quite quick to point out to me (some out of goodness and some out of badness) the things that they believed to be not only the causes but also the effects of my "strange" way of thinking about things.

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09 Aug 2010, 3:35 am

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I think I have pretty normal views and sooo many other people have strange views.

I agree. Not everyone with strange views is autistic. It may be somebody's personal traits which I (and sometimes also others) cannot understand.

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09 Aug 2010, 8:13 am

I think I have strange religious views.

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09 Aug 2010, 11:41 am

Oh yes, ALL the time!

I get told how my views of being in a relationship are strange because I don't want to be in one - and don't want kids. I've been told that my views on social interaction are strange because I can't very well make small talk and social pleasantries like "good morning" and "hello" and will tell people that it's largely useless and meaningless, not to mention that it's irritating to be on the receiving end of it.

People tell me that I have strange views about touching people or people touching me while I'm talking to them (I do NOT do it). The ONLY reason to touch someone is to be annoying.

So yeah...I'M a wierdo :roll:

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09 Aug 2010, 11:45 am

League_Girl wrote:

conundrum wrote:

League_Girl wrote:

My husband has been saying this to me lately. He thinks I have weird views of the world and about stuff.

Anything specific?

Today we had an argument about what I wear and I have a coat he doesn't like because the sleeve is ripping. I have some clothes he thinks are ratty looking and he said the way I dress makes people perceive me differently. They'd think I'm poor and I said so what because they don't know me and he said it's how people treat me based on how they perceive me. I asked him how do they treat me? Bad? and he said no. I don't really care what people think because they don't know me so I wouldn't care if they thought I was poor and besides how would he know what they think? He can't even read their minds. If I walked into a Gamestop and bought a game wearing that coat, they wouldn't even care because just as long as I have the money, they don't care. They're not going to tell me if I am sure I can afford the game and it be my own problem if I couldn't pay all my bills because I bought a game instead. All they care about is making money so they're not going to care what I have on, just as long as I have the money to buy the game, it doesn't matter. He said I have strange views on stuff.

I don't see how that is strange? Because I don't care how people perceive me based on what I wear? It's not going to even stop cashiers from selling me something and I have a job already so it doesn't matter what I have on.

This reminds me of myself a lot, my mum thinks I have some sort of problem because I think the same way you do, except it's more about my hair and stuff than what I wear.

NTs care too much about what strangers think about them TBH :roll:

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09 Aug 2010, 11:55 am

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NTs care too much about what strangers think about them TBH Rolling Eyes

I still get moaned at when I visit my mum and I'm wearing a comfortable pair of old jeans I particularly like, a creased T-shirt and a battered pair of boots I don't want to replace because they're very comfortable. I tend to shave very infrequently, and never all the way down (I can't stand the feel of a razer so I use electric trimmers once in a while).

Insecurity about appearance is a learned flaw in thinking that seems to suggest that a well-groomed person is somehow superior to someone who takes less care over their appearance. In my experience the opposite is often true. I'd prefer people to judge me by my standards, as I try to do with them.

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09 Aug 2010, 11:59 am

adifferentname wrote:

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NTs care too much about what strangers think about them TBH Rolling Eyes

Exactly!

I mean, would you say this person is inferior?

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