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11 Nov 2010, 3:26 am

Well, I'm not especially beautiful, but good-looking, and my parents, while not rich, have enough money to afford more than avarege people (I'm studying abroad in England, but my parents don't really feel any loss of money).

So I should have a considerable amount of friends, according to your maths.
Well, I don't. I never had.

Actually, one of my former friends was overweight, not ugly, but definitely not good-looking, and she sure had "a bucket load of friends". More friends than I would ever dream of, and closer friends.
And a student at my university whom I know from school is quite poor, yet it also seems like she's drowning in friends.
And what both of these girls have in common what I don't have is excellent social skills.

If you're good looking, you have an easier start with people, but in the long term good looks alone don't help much.
If you're rich, this also helps, and you will always have a bunch of people claiming to be your friends.
But neither of you will help you to close, real friends that stick to you.



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11 Nov 2010, 1:45 pm

I am good-looking enough to attract a few female gazes. Sometimes (when I don't screw things up beforehand by not greeting people properly), it gives me a head start to socialize with people, but, thanks to my terrible social skills and my even worse self-esteem, it never last more than a few days. It actually took me about 5 months to befriend my coworkers, thanks to their initiative.
Of course, I'm not rich, but, as it was stated before, money would only attract freeloaders.

On the other hand, my coworkers are all on the same wage as me and I'm the better looking of the bunch (even they admit it). Their social skills are great, they have lots of friends and absolutely no problems with girls.

Conclusion: Social skills > Money > Looks.



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11 Nov 2010, 9:35 pm

Magnus_Rex wrote:
I am good-looking enough to attract a few female gazes. Sometimes (when I don't screw things up beforehand by not greeting people properly), it gives me a head start to socialize with people, but, thanks to my terrible social skills and my even worse self-esteem, it never last more than a few days. It actually took me about 5 months to befriend my coworkers, thanks to their initiative.
Of course, I'm not rich, but, as it was stated before, money would only attract freeloaders.

On the other hand, my coworkers are all on the same wage as me and I'm the better looking of the bunch (even they admit it). Their social skills are great, they have lots of friends and absolutely no problems with girls.

Conclusion: Social skills > Money > Looks.


You definitely are a pretty good looking dude...not gay


I think your logic applies to guys.....



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11 Nov 2010, 9:46 pm

ApsieGuy wrote:
Anyone agree with this?

No.

Maybe superficial friends. Not real friends.

You don't need good look or have lots of money to have true friends. You just need to find the right people.


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11 Nov 2010, 11:57 pm

ApsieGuy wrote:
Chronos wrote:
ApsieGuy wrote:
Anyone agree with this?


No. There is nothing that correlates number of friends to material wealth. I think you just have the perception that good looks and money will solve your problems, but lack thereof is not the root of your problem, poor social skills are, and so having good looks and money won't actually solve your problem. Though obtaining these things in light of your misconceptions may improve your social situation by giving you more confidence and prompting you to socialize when you otherwise may not have.



Obtaining these things would give you more opportunity to socialize. :D :D :D

It's kind of like dating. However, if you are socially awkward....but have good looks and money your still screwed

not really. a cup of coffee costs $2. the library is free. lying down under the stars is free. friends and girlfriends/boyfriends don't have to cost much, if anything.


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12 Nov 2010, 12:38 am

No

You can be as good looking or rich as you want - if you have poor social skills, however, chances are that you won't have "buckloads of friends".

Would you really want to hang around someone who's good looking or rich, but is essentially a social ret*d?