Do people ever perceive your honesty as manipulation?

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You should watch the movie "Being There" staring Peter Sellers.

He plays Chauncy Gardener an innocent childlike ( and rather aspie-like) character thrown by circumstance into the world.

The normal people around him mistake his honesty and innocence for profundity. Hes a blank slate and folks project whatever they want onto him. you're kinda like Chauncy, except for you people project there own negative stuff.
Thats common experience for me- people projecting their own nefarious motives onto me.

Someone ( Patrick Moynihan? someone like that) once said that "Its easy for me to fool diplomats. I Just tell them the truth and they never believe me."

NTs can perceive my honesty as innocent, naive, rude or amusing.

Just like 2 minutes ago I was reading something I wrote about people who just don't understand me when I'm being straight forward. Which, I think seeing honesty as manipulation is a version of that.

I can to the realization that sometimes people can't just understand something as straightforward because it doesn't fit in their world view. So, it must be something else.

parents constantly accuse me of being manipulative, even if manipulation isn't my intention. generally it has to do with me saying i'm going to do something and then not doing it--that's just my poor memory and inability to maintain motivation. but i've always been the mean one, the manipulative one, the one who destroyed the family. ah well.