Can people with AS socialize well with other Aspies?

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Yes, I considered it to be rather humorous also.

I've only met one known aspie and it was really awkward. He wasn't interested in what I had to say and didn't try to talk about himself. I made partial eye contact and he didn't at all.
I've struggled to talk to other shy people too but I'm not sure if they had AS.
My half brother who has traits of autism is probably the best person to talk to because he just knows what to say to me.
I really need the other person to be open minded and a bit extroverted. Although sometimes my clumsy impulsiveness will do. I suppose it's why most of my friends are always super critical of everything. They never stop talking. And you don't have to be good at conversation, you just need to laugh and make your own comments. And I am a super critical b****d too.

Even before either of us knew we were autistic, my Aspie friend and I had a definite rapport, despite having very different personalities. I even recall being perplexed at feeling like we were the same, yet us seeming like nearly polar opposites (it wasn't until seven years later that I learned why this was).

Anyway, there was awkwardness at first, but it wasn't the same as awkwardness with NTs. After we had known each other for a couple of years, we became very comfortable with each other. Now, there is no awkwardness. We are both our autistic selves around each other without reserve, but there's understanding and acceptance, so the awkwardness which would normally accompany this is not there.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who has an Aspie friend that they get along with. This thread was looking really bleak.

I answered this in another thread recently, though it's probably more relevent here than it was there:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp3321507 ... t=#3321507

I've never met any, that I know for sure are Aspie. I've met some folks who SEEM to be and we don't get along well. They are either really socially awkward, don't talk, or talk too damn much...about themselves.

The people I get along with best are good at listening to me (cuz I talk a lot), don't mind me acting a fool in public, and have calm centers to help ease my anxiety.

I also get along well with artistic, introverted folk. As long as they are up for going out and drinking sometimes.

I have a fellow aspie in my class. He is much more introverted than me and will not talk on his own initiative. He has more severe incapabilities on social level, to the extent people feel sorry for him.. he surely has a special position.. he never has been bullied, people don't frown upon his subtle and not so subtle social errors & incapabilities... His psychologist came in class to explain what asperger was... When I just was in class and wasn't bullied yet I felt I'd protect him against bullies.. but then I became the bullied...

I told a few people I have it but they don't really understand the concept because I'm quite close to being NT.. Or when I tell them afterwards they are perplexed... while I sense they pick up my subtle social / non verbal incapabilities and (some) exploit them.

Heilixstein, is this show really coming out, or was that a joke? Seriously, it was pretty funny.

I have always been uncomfortable with people that I sense are like me in some way or those who are highly introverted. Because there is little that I can learn from them. I think I read somewhere that Aspies sometimes like to be around out-sized personalities because they can take some of their confidence into themselves and mimic them. It's also easier to read the emotions of people with large personalities. It's like watching a cartoon. I have sometimes realized that when I am being unusually social, I am mimicking the mannerisms of a highly social person I know. Channelling them in a way.

This one can. I find aspies very easy to talk to, 2 of my friends are aspies and another is HFA. We get on like a house on fire.

I struggle no matter what.

When I'm with other Aspies, I can easily get irritaated by their stims and the noises they make.

I can't socialize at all with NTs.
I know about a hundred aspies IN PERSON.
Of the 100 aspies I know, about 80 are totally alien to me.
Out of the remaining 20, about 15 are quite nice to hang around with, and about 5 are soul mates.

Going through the trouble of meeting a hundred aspies was worth it, in order to get to know my 5 soul mates.
What bonds my 5 aspie soul mates and myself is not our struggles. What bonds us is our shared hypersensitivities (which we love), our shared obsessions and our shared intelligence.

I know a few people with AS. They're about as difficult to talk to as other people. Two bad conversationalists don't make a good conversation. But maybe if I met an Aspie I actually liked, it would be different.

I think it depends on the Aspie - I know a lot of other ones. Two of my best friends are actually also Aspies (confirmed), I suspect another one of my best friends to have AS, and I have an acquaintance that I also think has AS. On the other hand, I have a frenemy (she used to be a good friend, but she is an inappropriate b***h) who also has AS (her mom told my mom).

YES, very much so. I've met an aspie who was a typical passive-aggressive type. For someone who cannot read people at all, the result of that attempt to connect was a huge blow. Sometimes, the personalities and goals in life just do not match up. But having met a lot of people on the spectrum, I must say that it's much, MUCH easier to socialize with them, and while there still can be some social awkwardness there (it never goes away), I forget about them when being surrounded by other people with similar traits. I actually have the most fun with those who are more on the "classic autism" side, but are still eager to interact with others. I feel like I can relax with them the most.