Do Aspies have to apologise for everything?

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I feel your dilemma... but I'm not sure style can be regulated. I tend to glance over lots of caps because I have issues with shouting myself. Weird how just the symbolism of shouting causes the same reaction as the real thing...

I'm sorry (in a thread about apologizing for everything):lmao:

I just got really wound up! I'm not shouting as much as I'm emphasizing!

Last edited by Surreal on 24 Feb 2011, 3:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think sometimes it can be difficult to be aware of exactly how we are coming across to other people. Very slight things can cause offense, and if we are not aware that our demeanor or whatever else is causing someone else to feel judged or uncomfortable, then we might find ourselves in the position of having to apologize without even knowing what we did wrong.

Haha. I love it. I'm sorry it made you apologise....wait.

I know, but in my head it's shouting!

Stop...you're killing me

I have to constantly say sorry for things that I did, do to my OCD. Probably things that I don't need to say sorry for in the first place. Also, when someone gets mad at me for doing something to someone else, I have to say sorry to the person I did it to, even if THEY didn't mind.

Like for example, there was this teacher at my school (now on leave) and I'd walk past his classroom often and I'd wave at him every time, he didn't mind, it only took a couple seconds to wave back. Lots of students did it. Once, I waved at him while walking past his classroom with my helper and she (the helper) told me that I shouldn't wave because he was teaching. So I quickly got a piece of paper and wrote "sorry for waving" on it, I was planning on sliding it under his door, anyway, I saw him walking down the hall towards me when I was walking to the class to deliver the note, so I just gave to him there and he told me that there was no need to apologize.

I remember as a child I didn't understand what sorry meant and I was always forced to say it. I never understood why I was saying it and then it hit me when I was older and I learned you say sorry when you do something someone doesn't like or when you do something on accident or do it when you hurt someone or upset them and then at age ten I was overly apologizing.

So basically I was taught to do fake apologies and then at age 17 I learn from other aspies it's all a lie so why do it? Even my mom agreed. Hypocrite, she was the one who taught me and the other teachers and grown ups. I hate it when people all of a sudden change the rules on me they taught me and then go "Oh no that isn't okay."

Morally speaking, any obligation to apologize for a condition not of one's choosing poses a dilemma. Would you ask a burn victim to apologize for scaring people? I rest my case.