06 Mar 2011, 10:59 am
I'm like that too. I hate when people try to nag me into doing something and it only makes me less likely to do it. If they ask me to do it and I say yes, they can be sure that I will do it, but I will do it at a time that suits me (within a reasonable deadline of course). If they keep bugging me about it or trying to push me into doing it sooner, without any valid reason for why that's necessary and just because that would suit them better, I get annoyed and do it even later than I originally intended to. I hate when people act like control freaks and try to nag or pressure me into doing things their way.
I really hate being controlled by other people, so if someone tries to control me I usually refuse to do any of the things they try to push me into, even if I'm not really against the actual things they're trying to get me to do. I just don't want them to think they can control me and get their way through pressure, because that would make them try it even more.
I also hate when people try to push me into doing things that I don't really want to do or that I disagree with or just don't feel up to dealing with and that are not necessary.
That's me as well.
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06 Mar 2011, 2:00 pm
I'm like that too. I hate when people try to nag me into doing something and it only makes me less likely to do it. If they ask me to do it and I say yes, they can be sure that I will do it, but I will do it at a time that suits me (within a reasonable deadline of course). If they keep bugging me about it or trying to push me into doing it sooner, without any valid reason for why that's necessary and just because that would suit them better, I get annoyed and do it even later than I originally intended to. I hate when people act like control freaks and try to nag or pressure me into doing things their way.
I can get like this. I have at times almost felt like when someone asks me to do something, and then asks me again that they've pushed a reset button, and I'll take even longer to get around to it. It is certainly partly oppositional, but I think I just also put things on an internal schedule when they come up, so if you ask me today to do something, I'll put it after the other things I need to do. If you ask me again tomorrow, I'll move it to the end of the list whether or not your request annoyed me.
The other problem I have is that when I'm asked to do things and not given a deadline, I give it a low priority and so other stuff gets bumped above it. Rather than asking me to do something repeatedly, I'd rather people suggest that it's important to get that thing done.
08 Mar 2011, 6:51 am
I'm like that too. I hate when people try to nag me into doing something and it only makes me less likely to do it. If they ask me to do it and I say yes, they can be sure that I will do it, but I will do it at a time that suits me (within a reasonable deadline of course). If they keep bugging me about it or trying to push me into doing it sooner, without any valid reason for why that's necessary and just because that would suit them better, I get annoyed and do it even later than I originally intended to. I hate when people act like control freaks and try to nag or pressure me into doing things their way.
I really hate being controlled by other people, so if someone tries to control me I usually refuse to do any of the things they try to push me into, even if I'm not really against the actual things they're trying to get me to do. I just don't want them to think they can control me and get their way through pressure, because that would make them try it even more.
I also hate when people try to push me into doing things that I don't really want to do or that I disagree with or just don't feel up to dealing with and that are not necessary.
Yeah I have to agree with you their. I can't stand that.
08 Mar 2011, 8:22 am
For me, it's not so much being *asked* repeatedly as being *hinted to* repeatedly. People will phrase something as an observation instead of a request, and I'll just nod my head and agree with them. Then people get mad at me because they allegedly "asked me several times to do" the action and I didn't. At that point it will dawn on me, and I will cheerfully say, "Oh, OK! Sure, I'll be happy to do it. You should have just asked me." Then they get even madder because they think I'm being a smart-aleck.
Example (from in my teens/20s): "Your music is loud" and "I can hear your music from clear over here" totally did not register with me one bit as meaning "Please turn your music down." In fact, I can remember one instance when I was 19 and living in an apartment (I grew up in a house) and the neighbor (whom I didn't know) started banging on the wall...and I thought the person was playing a game so I started knocking back! It wasn't until many years later that I looked back on that memory and thought, wow, that person must have been furious!
Edit: Especially since I was knocking back doing the old "shave and a haircut" rhythm and wondering why the person wasn't just giving the two answering knocks like he/she was supposed to... 
As I get older, I'm getting a lot better at picking up on this. I had a ton of trouble until I got into about my mid-thirties. Cost me some jobs, too, of course. 
09 Mar 2011, 6:26 am
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09 Mar 2011, 7:55 am
