Conceitedness and arrogance ...

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Absolutely.

Then again, sometimes it is somewhat true. Sometimes. Occasionally.

Almost never. I've only being called vain by one person, because she misinterpreted my BDD/insecurity issues with vanity. Almost everybody I know considers me to be lacking in confidence, introverted, loner (not an arrogant one but a shy one) or eccentric/funny-behaving. The most common phrase is harmless/doesn't bother anyone/lives in his own world. People often treat me like a kid; they seem kind of over-protective towards me almost as if they're my parents.

My mother-in-law told me I was boastful about my daughter. The truth of the matter is that I find her very difficult to speak to. As a result, whenever she came over, I'd just tell her about the things that my daughter and I had been doing that week. At no point did I ever say 'She's so smart and wonderful', etc, it was merely a list of events. My MIL has always had a preference for her other daughter-in-law and I'm sure she was jealous on her behalf. They don't have the money to do things with their kids, even though their income is similar to ours (their obviously AS dad spends it all on computer stuff and DVDs). I'm not sure if it's an empathy thing, but I don't do jealousy (one of the AS gifts I'm happy to have) and I don't get people who do have those sorts of emotions.

Yes.

You basically described me. About empathy, though, it's not like I don't have it, but I do NOT fake it.

I think most people fake it. There's no way people really feel as strongly as they say they do about most things or as concerned as they pretend to be about a lot of issues.

And if they ARE, then they are too empathetic, IMO.

I've been called arrogant in the past, by my mother and other people have implied it. I do my own thing, I say what I think(to an extent) most of the time, and I don't carry on friendships that aren't meaningful to me.

But I do keep a lot of things to myself, I don't go around saying whatever I feel like if it might really hurt someone or is just unnecessary and mean. I rarely brag, don't feel the need to boast or assert my superiority, and when I do find friends that I genuinely like I am VERY loyal to them and like to be around them as often as possible.

So it's a toss up. I have a lot of traits that could make me appear arrogant and narcissistic but I can drop them, easily. I'm definitely a loner but it's not because I actually like myself better than everyone else, I just can't relate to the endless talk about nothing and the social rituals that you have to abide by when dealing with most people.

That being said, I don't abide by them, fully, even when interacting with most people and I still make friends this way. I'm usually myself...it keeps the boring people away and attracts the people I'd actually like to make friends with. This is fine with me, I just come across my type less often.

I DO like more than I like a lot of people, but there are people who are a lot like me and are better at socializing, being consistent, and doing the *normal* thing for long periods of time. This is how I want to be, I don't think I'm COOL because I don't conform, you know, I try to conform in some ways. I don't really feel a grave need to be individual, but I DO feel a grave need to do what I want and not be bothered by things that I don't care about.

Ideally, I'd be able to be myself and do what I like to do while still finding myself around a lot of like-minded people and having company that I enjoy. It's been this way in the past, I don't doubt that it will be this way in the future.