Asperger's Dad from hell

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I do beleive he has Aspergers. It it diagnosed heavily in his family. He has many typical traits, but the caveat is he was raised by a mom with a personality disorder and one mean degrading disposition. I believe his dad also has aspergers. Actually a close friend of mine with diagnosed aspergers pointed it out. What you are all saying though is that this level of meanness is not typical. Does anyone have info on being raised by a parent with Aspergers, or books explaining communication skills geared for kids? Thanks

It sounds like you could use some professional help on sorting this out.
It sounds too overwhelming to deal with through a book.
I think the first priority would be to protect your child from his father's hurtful behavior.

I don't know what kind of custody agreement you have, but perhaps you could revisit it and petition for your ex to get therapy and anger management as a stipulation to having contact with his child. From what you've described I don't think that is unreasonable at all--it's in the best interest of the child.

this is the first time he has done something physical like this. Normally he is unable to perceive the emotions of others and ALWAYS misconstrues intent. It is this misconstruing of intent that 'sets him off', maybe berating is not the corect term, but i receive a stream of uninteruptable dialog frequently.

What you've mentioned doesn't sound like aspergers. It sounds like you don't really know much about aspergers but you are just so sure he has aspergers yet what you've mentioned sounds more like a personality disorder.

Also, he cheated on you and assumes no responsibility. The lack of empathy you described is more on the scale of personality disorder not aspergers. When people "READ" about aspergers and autism, it's not accurate always especially when things are left up to interpretation like "lack of empathy". When one reads that, they assume it means lack of caring. Your ex sounds like he doesn't care he cheated on you. That is the lack of empathy found in personality disorders not aspergers.

Are you one of these people who signed up here to degrade aspergers and try to twist it into a personality disorder because I've noticed a pattern where several people have signed up here with NT in their user name who did the same.

Comes across as this one blogger trying to paint all prior serial killers as having aspergers when really they had personality disorders.

Don't assume you know that he has aspergers when you haven't listed much of any asperger traits but instead listed personality disorder. You might want to look up narcissist or sociopath.

I hope you aren't on here to assume he 100 percent has aspergers and dismiss those who do have aspergers as not knowing what they are talking about. It comes across almost trollish and you are attempting to pretend aspergers has anything to do with being a sociopath or narcissist.

His lack of empathy for cheating on you, his lack of accepting responsibility showing no remorse is NOT aspergers. If you can't be bothered to look up the personality disorders mentioned then you just can't be bothered.

You made it seem as though he isn't sorry much either for mistakes. Now you're saying "Okay maybe berate is the wrong word". Okay so are you making the situation out to be worse than it is? Do you want him to have aspergers as the reason rather than figure out the truth?

My mom has Asperger's. She did her best; she was widowed and was often overwhelmed, so she wan't a perfect parent (who is?), but she was loving and never abusive and, all things considered, was probably one of the stable parts of my life that resulted in my becoming stronger from the difficulties I faced as a child, rather than breaking. My mom and I were both victimized by a neurotypical man whom she married, who lied to her, hit me, and verbally abused her. My littlest sister is still living at home and has a happy childhood, especially since the aforementioned abuser left her when my littlest sister was five years old (ten years ago). We all survived; my family is tough like that. My littlest sister is going to graduate high school a year early and take college classes until she's eighteen. She wants to be a professional musician and is already good enough to play at weddings. The middle sister is neurotypical and three years younger than me, and is on her own like I am. She's talented with languages and currently teaching English in China and is doing well. At last report, she was fluent in four languages and is looking for more.

My mom is eccentric and tends to lecture a lot, and she's often stressed out by sensory overload and had to go to her bedroom and lie down; but she has a strong sense of ethics which she taught me. She's an occupational therapist and her work with the disabled when I was a child is part of why I was able to more easily accept my own diagnosis and disability, because I had met disabled children as equals as a child. Ironically, she hasn't been able to accept my autism particularly well, because she seems to have absorbed from her co-workers in the health-care industry the attitude of pity that is so pervasive there; but she still values the disabled as people and will advocate for them pretty strongly, getting in trouble with co-workers when her clients want something and she has to make waves to get it. She once made enemies over a request for a seat cushion for a nursing home resident to put in her rocking chair... I disagree with my mom now on many topics; but even that is probably a good sign, since the environment I grew up in was one that let me learn to think for myself. Honestly, we argue a lot, but I really couldn't complain about her as a parent. She's fallible and human, but we muddled through it together and I'm a grown-up now.

Also thanks to people misunderstanding an autistic's lack of empathy and gossipy idiots who insist they know what they are talking about spreading lies in their blogs, this is the kind of insult we have to put up with now. Serial killers have aspergers? Really? No! Those people are charming, calculating, can hide behind many different personas, they can do social manipulation quite well.

Do serial killers have Asperger's syndrome?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 532AAn0RuW

Children are being misdiagnosed as having aspergers when really they are showing signs of personality disorder. Killing their pets, damaging property some down right cruel behavior. That is not autism.


People are trying so hard to morph aspergers into personality disorders. Do you know how insulting that is? I wonder if sociopaths are trying to appear to have aspergers when caught so they can claim aspergers as an excuse.

http://www.suite101.com/content/would-a ... ony-a77342

Your husband sounds like a psycho.