Causes of Narcissist Personality Disorder

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Scrapheap is the devil!

This is less shocking than it should be.

What's supposed to be shocking?

Don't my horns do a good job of proping up my halo??

Here it is: http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/12-11-2003-48500.asp

Halo? I can barely see it.

People talk about a difference between spoiling and abusing a child, really spoiling is a form of abuse. What is spoiled food, it's food that has been left to go bad. Spoiling a child isn't being good to it, it's treating it in a way that doesn't help its development.
People get all shocked when middle class kids "from good families" become criminals and/or suicidal. But if you look deeper into their family life, you'll see kids that were left in their rooms alone, for hours and hours to play by themselves or develop friends that weren't checked out.
Kids who are given new or collectible cars for their 16th birthday, then have them replaced when they crash them, don't learn the value of a parent's concern or the value of transportation. It's all a game and a toy store.
I have known kids who had their own bedroom doors from the outside, so they basically had their own apartments. They could come and go without being heard, curfews were ignored.
This is abuse.

I was raised by 2 narcissistic parents . My dad drank until I was 6 my mom quit when I was 30. It seems that NPD is not from parenting or being spoiled. New research on brain chemicals shows they have not any pitocin . Thats the hormone that triggers the let down of mothers miulk and that is a flow of what is called empathy and compassion. The singular trait of the true NPD is that they just dont give a damn about anybody ...not even their own kids. If you type VAKNIN into GOOGLE his site has a page on the narcissit as a parent . As a boss. I have one as a husband right now. He's driveing me nuts. The main thing to know is that an NPD person can not meet your emotional needs. They will exploit you. sexually they see you as an object- a posession. You'll get a dose of narcissitic rage if you ever say any critical words to them about their shameless abusive behavior. They lie like crazy... usually pretty perverse stuff. So it's wise to spot them before they spot you. It's my personal opinion that an NPD can drive people to suicide. Thats the malignant narcissist. There are some narcissists who have "nice " personalities and pretty good character. I know one . The NPD is missing that component called empathy. The aspie can have empathy. They are not generally entitled nor do they manipulate and lie . They are not concerned what people think about them too much. The NPD is obsessed with prestige, power fame admiration . Whatever somebody else has he has to have too. Aspies would not even think of that.

The best book on parenting styles is Your Inner Child of the Past .
Its important not to impose on psychiatry values judgements that do not help us solve problems. Its clear as glass that children are being socially and emotionally starved. This happens in every economic group. Some of the lonelyest kids you'll ever meet live in nice houses with pools . Ever try talking to a swimming pool or a boat?
Its important to make a distinction between the merely self centered person and somebody with a genetic glitch-the NPD.
Alexander lowen wrote great book on Narcissism as the American cultural value. I think he was right about the culture. All of Alexander Lowens books helped me a great deal. They helped me realise that it was OK to be alive. I did not have to serve the narcissist . I had escaped. I am reading children of the self absorbed. These people you have to recover from .

Thank GOD for my AS then! I can't imagine what a little brat I would've been without it, because I must be the most spoiled teenager on here. My room is a teen's paradise; it's got a telephone, computer with great speakers, printer, scanner, an internet connection (:wink:), a beanbag, a PS2 and TV right next to the bed, PSP... heck I've even got an AIR HOCKEY TABLE IN THE MIDDLE OF MY ROOM!! ! Here's link to the pics of my room (they're panoramic, so they're WAY too wide to appropriate):

http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i250/ ... Room-1.jpg
http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i250/ ... RoomII.jpg