Best/Worst thing about being an aspie?

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All worst things: being unable to go to parties, difficulty speaking up in groups, reacting harshly to loud sudden noise, sensitive ears, too many emotions, panic attacks that are out of control, aggressive state of mind, severe self-pity and self-hatred, immaturity, object blindness, stupidity on the outside but full of thoughts and emotions on the inside, too much distraction to noise and movement, obsessions taking over my life, talking about obsessions non-stop even when needing to discuss something important, depression when obsessions can't be pursued, depression and insecurity when routine can't be pursued, loneliness and depression through late childhood, unability to block out crowds, unability to keep my cool when overwhelmed, too much agitation in public, being accused of ''following'' people, forgetting to say the right things, not being interested in make-up and hairstyles and shopping, making a fool of myself with men, being a sulky miserable grizzly person, having certain unique ''rules'', people staring at me all the time, severe anxiety over tiny trivial things, more than average stress getting employment (due to too many barriers), too much criticism from other people, easily overwhelmed, prone to Agoraphobia, severe paranoia, severe jealousy by comparing myself to other people too much, unability to keep some friends, playing my mum up too much, too ''normal'' for disability support and CBT yet too ''disabled'' to reach my desired goals in life, too much self-awareness yet clueless of how to be cool, pessimistic thoughts taking over my life, being unsure of how to change the way I think, complaining about everything (dissatisfied all the time), can't enjoy things around me due to fear of crowds, odd gait, other girls my age laughing at me, expected to have high intelligence instead I have low intelligence, anger management problems, struggle with conformity, unability to multitask, slow at getting things done, saying odd things to people, monotone voice when nervous or dislike someone, unability to say ''no'', too nice all the time, calm at inappropriate times and mad at inappropriate times, unability to stand up for myself, being an awkward person all round, fear conflicts and awkward situations, freak out over little things, poor motivation, difficulties showing an interest in some mainstream stuff, difficulties focusing, alienating myself all the time, extremely quirky, odd actions, fusspot, and likely to finish off in a concentration camp being tortured then finally killed in a horrible way due to government changes in years to come.

Good points? - you tell me! Even if there are good points about having it, all of the above kind of swallows them up.
I know NTs have at least a few of these awkward traits in them, but I have ALL of them. Fancy living a life having ALL of these!

Last edited by Joe90 on 19 Oct 2011, 4:32 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Good Luck Bad Luck!

There is a Chinese story of a farmer who used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer's neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?" A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?"

Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?"

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg, they let him off. Now was that good luck or bad luck?

Who knows?

Everything that seems on the surface to be an evil may be a good in disguise. And everything that seems good on the surface may really be an evil. So we are wise when we leave it to God to decide what is good fortune and what misfortune, and thank him that all things turn out for good with those who love him.

The best thing: The Special interests. Man, if I had my special interests and was NT that would be GOAT!! !

The worst thing: Everything else

I don't think it's necessarily bad to be disinterested in those things. I know lots of women who don't use make-up or fussy hairstyles....I probably shouldn't be prejudiced but frankly I prefer them that way, and so do a lot of people. And a penchant for shopping can get very expensive.


You have a very good handle on your own shortcomings as you see them. A lot of people live and die without ever acknowledging their own dark side, because their pride gets in the way, so they never grow. You on the other hand can pick out your problems and develop coping strategies for them.

Best thing: Being me. If i had not been as aspie, then i would probably have lived as citizen 5384762387 - just another mundane life. Because of my special interests, i have experienced some things that not many normal people will ever do. It took me a while to get here, it wasn't an easy or pleasant journey.

Worst thing: Eccentric aspies don't do well in the dating-game. This is the suckiest part of Aspergers. I try not to think about loneliness, but it hits me hard, emotionally, from time to time. Living a life with no love, sex or human contact can make anyone shut down, and right now - the only person i care about is myself, because no one else seems to. Funny part is that i used to care about others...

So...all in all, the balance is 50/50.

Still trying to work out what "being an aspie" means. I was gifted and eccentric pre-diagnosis. I'm still gifted and eccentric, with the added downside of being treated and referred to as being mentally disabled. So far there are no pluses to "being an aspie", or at least, a formal diagnosis.

Best thing my special interests

Worst thing not being accepted in society

Best:

My obsessive adherence to objectivity disallows the existence of absolutes such as "best" and "worst", hence eliminating the possibility of their being a worst thing about being on the spectrum.

Worst:

The elimination of "worst" as a possibility implies the elimination of "best" as well.

Yeah, but it's a matter of fitting in. I think my standard hairstyle brings out an unconfident impression and encourages criticism from other people. OK, make-up is not for everyone, but when I say, ''oh I want more men to fancy me, just like my cousin!'' and people say, ''well she knows how to put all her make-up on and takes care with her hair''. And other women seem to expect me to naturally like shopping, and I feel awkward saying, ''no I don't like shopping'', so I end up getting dragged around clothes shops and I've often had teenage girls teasing me because of my bored impression I have when I'm in them, and it's rare to see a young girl in a clothes shop looking bored and fed up and miserable. But when I start faking an interest in the clothes, I don't feel like myself, if you know what I mean.

I just wish I was naturally into shopping and having a hairstyle. But I feel too unconfident to change my hairstyle because if I do I know I will get, ''awww your hair looks so nice, awww I like it, awww....'' and although it's nice to have positive attention, I get embarrassed (yes, I'm 21 and I still get embarrassed of too much admiration).

Worst: Anxiety and the learning problems and the depression. Not understanding things and not being able to keep up in conversations, getting trapped in your routines, and having people treat you like crap just because they can tell you are different or because you don't follow their norms or the social rules. Also not being able to get a date or having difficulty sustaining a relationship because you have to follow the rules in it to "make it be good" and to "make it work." Gah all the negative traits and everything that comes with it because it's so common in AS.

Best: Seeing things differently and thinking differently and being able to be more logical and the ability to focus on your special interests to pass time.

Sounds like you haven't met many people outside of the meainstream, where values are rather different. I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't discovered them......it was too painful for me to live up to the male stereotype, and even now I couldn't go back, I might fake it for a while but I can't live a lie for very long. It's just so much better to be with people who don't expect it. One of those areas where it's only a disability if other people think it is. Deepdown I probably do want to fit in with the conventional world, but my self-image is built on the assumption that those people are wrong.

I also get embarrassed about attention. I spend most of my life whinging to myself that everybody ignores me, then when they do look at me and compliment me, I just feel awkward. Maybe if I were used to it, I'd be able to develop the right kind of responses.

Best - Being different than most other people out there.

Worst - Not being understood by most people out there.

Best: My childlike curiosity with the World and my creativity

Worst: Clinically impaired social intuition

Best things- intelligence, logical way of looking at things

Worst thing- communication problems

Best: I'm not afraid to be myself, even though the things that I like aren't popular with mainstream society and its people in 2011.

Worse: The flashbacks that I have of my own turbulent childhood when I see a parent screaming and scolding their child for having an accident in their pants or having a meltdown. The same memories come to me when a parent who's having problems coming to terms with their child's AS or ASD posts in this section of WP about it, expecting warm responses.

Best; Inteligence, being completely happy to be on my own and having intense interests.

Worst; having to deal with a world that I don't really feel part of.