Are you concerned about your physical appearance?

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I care to an extent, in that I do not want to stand out as an ugly person, and I don't want to lose out on opportunities because I'm unattractive.

However, I put very, very little effort into it, and I really can't say that I care THAT much. Even if someone outright tells me they think I'm ugly, I don't really care that much, which is why I don't try very hard. I hate shopping, getting new clothes, dressing up, wearing makeup, etc. None of that stuff makes me happy, and the less natural I am, the more uncomfortable I feel... I mean, feeling conventionally attractive in a way people will think I'm beautiful, does not make me feel more confident or happy.

I kind of care about weight, but it's more because I get scared that I will become obese and have health consequences. It freaks me out when my stomach gets larger, and I sometimes think it would be cool if I had an attractive body, but it's not something I fixate on too much. Does that make sense?

I'm pretty diligent with personal hygiene and clean clothes, bedding and so on but don't care about any style or fashion. My clothes must just be clean and comfortable. No idea if am perceived as ugly and i couldn't care less about other poeple's pov in this respect.

OK, I won't lie. I do like to look good, but at the same time I can't really be bothered to go out of my way to look good. I like to look good enough to not stand out or feel different, but I can't be bothered to pay all this money to have a fancy hairstyle that will be too difficult for me to maintain (I have got Dyspraxia and so grooming myself is very difficult).

I don't wear make-up because a) I get watery eyes a lot and I do cry a lot aswell so any eye make-up I wear would just end up being a big mess around my eyes, b) I haven't really got myself into the habit and I can't be bothered to start a habit of it, and c) I never seem very good at symmetrizing make-up on my face, for example I'd probably put more blusher on one side of my face than the other, or make one eye look darker than the other, etc. And I don't like staring at my face for too long in the mirror because I hate my face and the f**k off vibes it gives off. So make-up is out of the question, although sometimes I panic because I wonder if I'm the only woman in the whole world who doesn't ever wear a spot of make-up. Most women I know at least put lipstick on, and I know another girl with Aspie traits who even knows how to put on all her make-up.

And hairstyles are very hard for me. I have that bland hairstyle, with the front tucked behind my ears and the rest just hanging long, making my face look long and miserable and blank. I really should change it, but I don't seem to have the enthusiasm to do it. My heart just ain't in it. I keep saying I will get it done, but then I keep backing out. I think it's because I lack confidence in changing my appearence, because I don't like having people keep saying, ''oooooh your hair looks really nice, ooooooh doesn't that look better? Oooooooooh, it makes you look so pretty.....'' and it makes me feel like I'm 5 years old.

But ain't it really, really easy just to get up, wash, clean your teeth and get dressed, and maybe just give your hair a quick brush, and nothing else? You haven't got to waste 20 minutes to an hour standing there staring at yourself in front of the mirror, fiddling about with your hair and colouring your face with make-up? Doesn't it just make life so easy?

I care very little about my physical appearance. There are way more important issues that I have to consider before how I look. But I'm weird like that...

I obsess over that stuff, but mostly on obsessing as to how bad I look. I believe I am ugly, but idk, my friend's gf called me cute(but she is a nut). I feel like I look like the stock character 'nice jewish boy'(wiki it) mixed with an 80s nerd. I have egzema on my arms bad, so that helps scare people in the locker room( )

The only thing that causes me to care about my physical appearance at all is not wanting to be the center of attention. This actually ends up mostly meaning that its another reason I refuse to where skirts and dresses, because people would make a huge deal about it if I did ever.

Holes in my shirt (in terms of looks), whether my clothing matches, even small stains (which I rarely notice), I could care less about. Brushing my hair is a combination of comfort and habit, and not even itself about appearance (though it would probably bother me to not brush my hair before going out of the apartment).

I don't care about my appearance at all - I care about being comfortable.

I was a mess until I came out of the other side of puberty, but I paid much more attention to how I dressed after that (due to being into girls). Luckily, the ways I like to dress, ie a combination of punk and hip hop styles, are considered "cool" or whatever. I would never wear something I didn't like just because it was "stylish," though.

I care because other people care. My sister makes a big point of letting me know when I'm lacking in the appearance dept.

That said, I prefer to be comfortable and quirky. I can dress stylishly and look nice, but I'd prefer to be comfortable. Since a lot of "stylish" clothing is made of synthetic fabrics, I try to avoid trendy stuff, and I've weeded a lot of the comfortable dorky clothing out of my wardrobe in an attempt to fit in.

Some grooming stuff just exhausts and frustrates me: trimming eyebrows, styling hair, manicure/pedicure, shaving body hair (legs/armpits) and makeup. I do it when I think it's expected and necessary, but I'm perfectly happy to be clean and smell nice. I'm pretty sensitive to smell.

While I do feel somewhat self-conscious about my appearance (mostly in regards to weight - I weigh 154 lbs at 5'7") I don't care enough to actually do things like wearing make-up or flattering clothes. For awhile I put in effort to lose weight, but my love (addiction?) towards food is my Achilles' Heel.

An NT friend of mine just cannot understand why I don't care too much about my appearance. I do wax my face and brows on a semi-regular basis. And I'm somewhat attractive and have a very nice body shape from what I've been told (and I hate being told that). I hate makeup, jewelry, and dressing fashionably (I'm straight). I have no sense of fashion. I don't even carry a purse, rather stuffing what I can in my pockets. We've debated on this so much that she won't tell me the importance of appearance. I really don't know or understand.

I think as long as I'm clean, bathing/showering each day, and put on the necessary hygienic products, I'm cool.

Just a couple of hours ago, I made a visit to Walmart and bought lip gloss, earrings, facial moisturizer, a tote bag (close enough to a purse), and a few other "women" products. Believe me, it was very uncomfortable purchasing those items.

Not sure when I'll try them all, but I still fail to see why those are necessary, I really don't care what people think of me, the very few that can overlook my appearance will get to see what a wonderful, caring person I am. I'd much rather be doing/focusing on other things than my appearance.

Interestingly enough, this debate began when I declared I wanted a boyfriend. I get it, men are visual creatures but I shouldn't have to dress uncomfortably to get a man to take interest in me. Whatever.

I obsess about not gaining weight, mainly, or losing it if I've put on a few pounds.
I walked for three hours Wednesday, and drank 3 gallons of green tea, in an effort to get ahead of Thanksgiving-induced weight gain.
For me, it's more about the looks of me- weight, skin, hair, nails, etc,
than about clothes per se, although I have developed more interest in clothes since I lost a lot of weight earlier this year.

I care a lot about my appearance, but that's mainly because I've learned that looking good goes a long way towards making up for my lack of social skills. Out of everything, your hair and clothes are the easiest thing to change, with most immediate payoff and visible benefit.

That's not to say I look good 24/7/365. Far from it. The truth is, nobody looks good to strangers 24/7/365. The key is recognizing when it's worth going through the trouble to look good, and knowing when you can get away with letting it slide.

I do, but not as much as other people. I am comfort over looks. I don't dress the way people normally do even though I dress normal now, it's still a little off somehow. I am not known for being very attractive, I'm pretty avg... maybe even below avg. I'm not sure. Hard to say outside of myself, because for myself I am fine with how I look other than my acne.

Me? Jeans, t-shirts and sneakers every day until they wear out. The only clothing I care for is biking and hiking clothing, for functionality though, not looks. I keep clean however, I don't like to smell. My own body odor would bother me. I shower 2x a day and change clothes daily. I cut my hair and shave with the same 1mm trimmer, can't shave close to skin.

I just don't want to stand out in any way, whether that's for good or bad reasons. I just don't really like people looking at me.