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I will wait a few minutes past since it's impossible to arrive on the nose. Then after that I start to wonder if they got stuck in traffic or something. If they are way late, I start to panic because they never called. I call them instead. Unfortunately my husband's family is like this and it gives me tremendous anxiety. I hate slackers

I have no problems if someone is late, I have problems and freak out if someone is early.

If I waiting for a ride for someplace to be, like an appointment or something when time is important then yes it bothers me. ie) My dad usually drives me to school, work etc.. and if he;s late then I'm late and its a terrible impression on me.

Otherwise when I'm not in a rush or pressed for time then I'm perfectly fine

Yes, I become extremely anxious/agitated if someone is late. I always try to show up early to things myself.

Yes. I would rather wait an hour, knowing they're going to be late, than wait five minutes not knowing when they'll get there.

No

I'm always the one who's late. I'm 5-10 minutes late to EVERYTHING, and with distance that number increases exponentially. I think that I have a problem understanding time or that I somehow perceive it differently than others.

God yes.

I am chronically late so I don't usually get annoyed when other people are late, but it depends on the situation. If it is something really important to me I expect people to be on time. I used to get really mad if a teacher was late to music class, I'd rant and rave until they showed up.

One time I was starting piano lessons with a new teacher and she was showing up 10-15 minutes late, to her own house. I had to wait out on the front porch for her to get there. She would show up looking sort of flustered and jump out of the car, straight into having the lesson. The second time it happened, I thought well maybe she just has something she needs to do just before the lesson. So I asked her, is this a good time for you? I was just thinking we could change the time if she had something else she needed to do. She started acting really weird, and said no, why do you ask? I said, well because you were late last week, and you were late again today. She got mad when I said that. I guess I wasn't supposed to point out to her that she was late. She acted like I shouldn't have any problem with waiting on her to get there when she felt like it. I told her that wasn't going to work and I didn't want the lessons anymore. She yelled at me and get this, she actually put her hands on me and pushed me out the front door. I swear music teachers are THE craziest people in the world.

I'm often late, and it apparently bothers me sometimes more than it bothers the people expecting me. I guess I know a lot of people who are chronically late, so they don't care.

If someone else is late, I try to bear the above in mind, so that I don't fret over feeling abandoned or forgotten.

If I'm early, people seem impressed, so I do it if I can - but not by too much, so I don't inconvenience anyone.

If they're early, I feel descended upon and unready, even if I'm technically prepared.

In fact, part of the trouble of having house guests is kind of feeling descended upon regardless, combined with anxiety over whether or not they'll really bother to show eventually if they're late.

I used get upset when someone tells me a time and take it as approximate. Then I discovered one person was always 15 minutes late. Took that into my registry.

That person= 15 minutes late.

Another person would be telling me time of arrival to a destination. I would get really upset when it was not the correct time of arrival. Then I noticed if I set intervals for timing rather than approximate timing in my head it eased frustration. If someone is hours late without calling that is rude.

Someone says, I am coming over at 9:30. Apply an interval of 9:30-10:00. As it turns out most people are not on time and expect most people to be able to accept that. If after 30 minutes the person is not there, go ahead and pace and call to make sure the person is okay.

This is me!

I don't like people being late. When someone is late, I don't freak out, but I tend to say "You're late" repetitively. I'm also very specific with times, for example, if the time was 12:44, it would be something like this:
Sister: What's the time?
Mum: Quarter to one.
Me: No it's not, it's 12:44!

And then my mum gets on my case about being specific and saying I don't have to be specific. However, my English teacher is the opposite when it comes to school work. She always tells us, "Be specific!" Not hard for me =D

yeah i get uber agitated. usually because i think its because i am late and they have left. if i am actually late it is worse. i think it becomes visible and i feel so guilty. it like oh my god im 3 minutes late. how could i be so inconsiderate? they probably think i dont repect them or theyve left or are getting cross. blah blah blah.