Do people with Asperger get angry easily?

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I tend to have a delayed reaction to things so I am really slow to get angry. It takes things buildling up over time to get me there. I am more an impatient type of person and I can be snippy with people about things so it can come across like I'm angry, when I'm not. I can hide my impatience really well if I need to but then it can build up to the point that I do finally lose my temper.

I become angry very easily about specific things that anger me, if that makes sense. ie: I might not get angry about the same type of things that a lot of people would, but anything that is able to anger me, makes me very angry very quickly.

i do not get angry. anger is a sophisticated emotion, and i do not think i have ever felt it.

i am a very impatient person, and i like to proceed through my chores with no resistance, and i view in a dim way, things that obstruct my progress. i huff and puff and i try to (mentally) blow the traffic lights down, but i know that that is a futile attitude, and i must sit and wait behind other cars even though i have no respect for them. i eventually get home, and when i do, i rapidly release the mental pressure that i was fighting to keep contained during my situation in the traffic jam with a prolonged and satisfying sigh of relief.

home is the place to be

I'm slow to anger and pretty laid back. My philosophy is live and let live.

I have three sisters so I have been listening all my life. LoL.

I listen intently and look at my options, carefully. You can learn from anyone.

The few times i do get angry, people look in my eyes and leave the room.* just joking* LoL.

TheSunAlsoRises

It would have been a tremendous help for me as a kid had there been such therapies available back when I was growing up. Perhaps this could have helped me with anger issues in my adulthood, too. When I have the mood, I got easily agitated over unimportant things and I yell at others, sometimes a lot.

So far no one mentioned meltdowns. My anger issues are tied to meltdowns. Accumulated sensory overload and/or frustration can result to anger-outburst type meltdowns for me triggered by a malicious though insignificant event. I can't believe why I must suffer from this sooo much more in comparison to other autistics at around the age of mine.

Sometimes, people with Autism can interpret someone giving them advice as a person questioning their intelligence or even chastising them. It depends on the situation and the mood that you're in. In this case, anger is used as a defense mechanism that gives one time to interpret an uncertain social situation when someone invades your space. Basically, when you get pissed off, you hyper-focus on the person who triggers your anger.


If you can, remain silent, count backwards to ten in your head, and redirect your attention.


TheSunAlsoRises

When I was a little kid, I got angry and agressive easily and hit other kids if they touched me or bumped into me. If there were too many kids talking at once (usually in the lunch line), I'd go up to whoever I felt was talking the loudest and punch them. I was taught by the school psychologist how to handle my anger. It was either work on controlling my anger, or go on meds to control it (and as a kid I hated taking pills of any kind).

*And, fate always comes knocking at my door. *

I'm happy you were able to control your anger without medication.

TheSunAlsoRises

i get very angery very easily about what my parents watch on tv or don't watch i keep going on about the same things all time since the age of 15 tells my to shutup leve home and says he hates me

I hardly become angry, but I do become sensitive at times.

I'm content with life most of the time. I only get really angry if people are being more idiotic than normal or if life seems that it's turning against me. I've had this happen a few times but on a normal day I'm a a content mood. When when I'm angry, I either try to hide it by pretending to be happy or by avoiding people altogether. I try not to get too snappy but sometimes I just have bad days. Doesn't everyone?

I rarely get angry. I can easily become irritated or frustrated, but have developed techniques to keep these from building into real anger. I also take a lot of antidepressant/anti-anxiety medication and I strongly suspect this reduces my stress to a considerable degree, resulting in my personality being far more stable and even.

Misunderstandings, whether of me or by me, can result in my becoming angry. Frustration with something I'm trying to do that isn't working out the way I had hoped can do it. Discovering I've made a mistake or accidentally done something wrong can do it. Overstimulation of one kind of another can do it. Hearing about people abusing each other or similar tragedies can do it, even if it involves people I don't know. And, of course, being mistreated myself can do it.

I used to get overwhelmed by all emotion as a kid, I think. It wasn't unexplained cycling of emotions. It was overly strong reactions to causes that could be known. That's toned down a lot over the years, and meditation and learning coping methods have both helped. So has learning not to be afraid of my feelings, even when they're painful and/or strong. Actually, being too happy makes me more nervous, lest I become clumsy from not paying attention and do something foolish by accident.

I think Temple Grandin says autistics have a heightened fight or flight response (and let's not forget freeze, the other involuntary "f" that can occur in response to threat). We just need to work harder than most people to deal with it. Come to think of it, taking self-defense also helps (and, I've learned, is good for a lot of other stuff, as well). NTs learn to deal with all kinds of things by taking martial arts. It works, and you don't have to be NT for it to help you, too.

Yes, we do. I can't always control my behaviour when something comes along to panic or upset me. I start screaming and yelling and shouting profanity about myself and hitting myself in the face and just becoming constantly argumentative towards others in the house, and if my brother teases me I lay into him - then he acts like a crybaby afterwards and I'm the one in trouble. I get called a ''big kid'' then, but that is not true because anger is Aspies is not childish, it is a different thing. I think my brother is the big kid in this one (plus he's older than me) because he should know better than to tease me when I'm feeling angry. It's common sense not to make somebody feel even more angrier when they're already in a bad mood (that's what Aspies are always told, as a social rule). So yes I am very short-tempered. I know a lot of NTs who are short-tempered too, but I seem to express anger in a different way. I am OK at expressing other emotions properly, but anger is one thing that I cannot deal with.

I'm on the verge of screaming now because snow is forecasted for today and it's becoming more and more cloudy now - and I f*****g HATE SNOW!! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! When we last had snow, my family came home acting really stupid. They were laughing their heads off because they saw somebody slip on their way home, and I was like, ''it's not funny - he could have really hurt himself'', then my brother was lingering about in the kitchen and living-room, leaving the doors open so there's a cold drought coming through, and the TV was on loud which was so distracting, and to cap it all off it was snowing heavily outside and rapidly accumilating on the ground. And I did lose my temper. I started screaming at my brother for existing, and I yelled at my mum for acting so excited about a stupid bit of snow, and I slammed and banged about and threw myself on my bed screaming and crying, and got everybody all upset. I've got to try to keep myself from doing the same today.

^This- exactly!^

I also feet very frustrated when people get involved in my (or my families) personal affairs when not invited.

I do get angry sometimes but not all the time though.