''He's Autistic - he ain't a proper friend!''

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I just feels like some NTs think that Autistic people ''don't count'' as a friend or boy/girlfriend. I find it really irritating. I speak to my Autistic friend on Facebook, I meet him in town sometimes, we go to the cinema, we have lunch, we go to his flat and chat, and do all the other things what friends do. He's a friend just as much as all my NT friends are.

Yeah, I've had that happen to me. I actually lost a friend because I defended another friend he frequently made fun of (he made fun of her because she's autistic, her speech problems and slow ability to process information). One day, me and him were playing Kick The Can at recess, and my other friend (the autistic one) decided to join us. That's when my NT friend told my autistic friend, "you're too ret*d to even play this!" He tried to flap his hands and suck on his jacket sleeve (he was mimicing what she did sometimes, but in a bad way). As she ran away crying I said to him, "she's my friend too, f**k you! So what if she's autistic? She's a hell of a lot more fun to hang out with than you!". The guy never talked to me again.

That seems like a very ignorant, and rude thing to say.

If I heard something said like that I would be very upset with the person who said it and anyone who allowed it to be said without saying, "Well, that is just wrong".

People are uninformed, and unaware and rude sometimes-- behavior like thatto me defines a bad friend, not a person's ability or disability.

Bovine scatalogy! While I never made a lot of friends, the ones I did are on my Facebook Page some 15-25 years later.
I'm very loyal, if not always expressive.
The ignorance of humanity in general continues to appall me!

Matthew

Saying that an Autistic person doesn't count as a friend sounds like nothing but ignorant superficiality to me. A friend is defined as a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. Autistics are definitely people and can show affection towards others, which makes them easily count as a friend. An autistic person is just as human as any NT. I guess this idea just seems to surpass the pea-sized, close-minded brains of some idiots. I hate how some people believe that if something isn't "normal" that it is wrong. Being "normal" is an impossible standard that people strive way too much for. There are too many differences among people for normalcy to actually exist.

I think people who think that are not proper friends

I'm pretty sure the assumption by such people is that autistics /cannot/ be "proper friends", for whatever reason.

This is (one of the reasons) why I hide my AS...

It's true , if some one wanted to be my friend I'd ask why?

What can I offer you?

What can you offer me in return ?

Answer: Nothing

I am a machine that can not be loved don't you get that ?

I would not know how to be some ones friend do you?

And if we try most of us going to be discarded like a used condom anyways so why bother ?

Would you like me to be your friend?

And she ?

Not even sure why an autistic would want a friend how are you going to make yourself lovable to some one act like a designer dogie at the pet shop window panting and waging it's little tail? and for what so the heiress can dump you when she tires of you ?



I'm not sure why the poor dogie should go through all that indignity.





Better to be keep your guard like the rottweiler

It's not just people with disabilities who people not count as a ''proper friend''. It's also people who are foreign, or if they're a lot older than me. I have a friend who is 40 years older than me, and although that sounds ''wrong'', it isn't. She is the same gender as me, we have a lot in common (I'm not into parties and dressing up and etc like other youngsters are), and we get on well, and she treats me like a proper friend. It's better to be with somebody who is a proper friend, than to hang out with anyone so long as they're you're age. I made that mistake before - I got in with the wrong crowd, just because I couldn't find anyone else of my age, and they were just so horrible to me that I had to get away from them and have nothing to do with them. Now I have a few people of my age as friends, who are not NTs. And I have older people as friends who are NTs, and I have a foreign friend who's a little bit older than me. But I think they are descent friends, doesn't matter what neurology, age and race.

It's whether they're nice to me or not that really counts. I would have thought NTs should know that.