Have you ever 're-added' someone in real life?

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The biggest mistake I ever made via Facebook was finding my first boyfriend (from when we were 10.) He was still hung up on me, admitting that every girlfriend he'd had since then, he compared to me... even though all I remember about that "relationship" was that I was too young to be interested in boys, so I sort of went with the flow and didn't go out of my way to pay attention to him. I was pretty much a jerk, in retrospect, but what do you expect from a kid that isn't interested in boyfriends/girlfriends yet? It was kind of disturbing to find out that he still thought I was an ideal girlfriend. Needless to say, he wasn't exactly a catch, over a decade later...

But that first one pretty much dissolved away originally. As to relationships that I purposely cut off, there is only one that I've accepted back. She was my best friend for about two years, but then a girl with whom I had a mutual burning hatred got moved into our class and started hanging out in our friends group. That girl used to start arguments and fights with me regularly. Eventually I got so fed up that I told my best friend that there was no way that girl and I could be in the same group peacefully, so she was going to have to make a choice- either me or her. I'm sure my friend was really torn by that, but hell, she saw how that girl always started fights with me! I have no sympathy for those that side with such people. My friend couldn't say no to the other girl, so I decided, fine. I cut her off. It's been over ten years since then and I've gotten back in touch with her through Facebook. She's grown up somewhat, seeing as she's now a married mother of two (soon to be three.) Also, the interwebs are wonderful- no more school cliques! I'm glad she's doing all right, too. While we were cut off I'd heard lots of rumors about how she'd gotten into drugs and was on a bad track... So I'm happy she's straightened out.

Everyone else? No way. I get Facebook requests from people that used to pick on me in school. I laugh when I get them. Really? You actively worked on making up rumors about me, spreading them around the school, and making my life a living hell. You REALLY think I'm going to call you a "friend" now? Just because some years passed? Do you have ANY idea of the psychological damage you did to me? You should be glad I'm such a strong person, otherwise you might've had the blood of a suicide on your hands. If you really think I can just let all that go, you've GOT to be dreaming!!

There were people in early school days I got along with pretty good, when Myspace started I actively tried to look some of them up and came away feeling more depressed; a girl I dumped for no reason had gotten married and everyone else was rolling in cash and raising kids, the others must be dead or in jail. I started FB just to play Mafia Wars and Farm Town and ended up with 200 some people I didn't even know, the status updates I just put 1 a day or so and have very few people acknowledge it, I guess you have to sit all day and make more updates to be good at FB.

There is no such thing, atleast not on a personal level. If you run a business, then ok, you can be good at FB, but not personally, imho. People on FB are more acquaintances, or even below that, not friends. Friends are someone you have a personal relationship with, not someone you have passed on the street in your hometown.