Are you mature for your age, or are you immature?

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I am mature when it comes to fancying men. I have a crush on my bus-driver, and I talk to him a lot and he likes talking to me too, but he's a lot older than me and I have a feeling he's married, so I don't try and push anything, and I don't talk about my love feelings for him. I just talk to him like I do with my brother or friends, and he probably thinks I am being mature about it and that is why he likes talking to me, I guess. I am quite pleasently surprised at myself really, for being an Aspie who has lack of social skills.
I also don't stand there giggling at shy-looking people who are on their own or with their mum, like girls do with me if I am seen on my own or with my mum. I don't find that very funny, and I don't think I should interfere anyway. People can't help being shy and there could be lots of reasons why somebody is with their mum. As long as I'm not holding her hand or doing anything else humiliating like that.
Also I make mature decisions with my money - even though I am not very good with money-handling.
And if I had a job that I was generally comfortable in, I wouldn't just be irresponsible by not turning up or getting myself too drunk to come in or just walking out because I ''can't be bothered'', then expecting my parents to pay for the things I want. I would never do that.
Also I don't play. I stopped playing with toys when I was about 14, and I felt too embarrassed to play imaginative games outside when I was about 13, then I rapidly grew out of it anyways. That is about average, since I have seen 13-year-old girls play games like hide-and-seek.

But I'm immature in other ways. Like if I am upset about something what I know is beyond my control, I would have a screaming tantrum over it and irrationally think that screaming and crying will solve the issue, which it won't. I also have mood swings, I know everybody does but sometimes I go all surly and aloof, like a 14-year-old might. Also I get horribly jealous of other people having boyfriends that I slam doors and call their boyfriends horrible names.

But I think I'm more mature than immature. Most of my immaturity is how I handle emotions. Otherwise, I'm just ordinary.

My oldest friend is in her late 50s and we get along fine, she says I'm a lot more mature than what other girls she knows of who are in their 20s. And my youngest friend is 13 (she volunteers at the same charity shop I volunteer at), but she's quite a serious 13-year-old, I don't think I would get on that well with her if she was the surly but obnoxious type.

Most of my online friends are younger than me, so I'm possibly pretty immature.
However, I've been told I look physically older than my age, and it's possibly because I'm tall for a Swedish woman. Not to mention that someone had commented that my eyes looked wise; in that "old sage" way.

But I can also be mature whenever I have to, like one time when I stood up for other people being continously picked on by another person. I felt that I just couldn't sit and ignore this behavior, and thus I told them off with a stern tone.
To be honest, I feel old when I behave that way.

If I'm going to be honest with myself I'd have to say I have the maturity of a young teen. My life experience can hide my immaturity but I know I'm nowhere close to where I should be for my age. People often mistake experience for maturity and I've used that to my advantage.

Most of my friends are either older or younger. I really only have two or three friends my age. It was like that when I was growing up, too.

I must say I am actually very adaptable. If I am with a more younger, immature person, I can be immature with them. If I am with someone around my age, I can just act typically mature/immature for my age. If I'm around someone older, I can be mature.

Both.... sometimes its hard deciding which phase will be me for that day....

I am immature whenever I don't need to be mature.

So basically 90% of the time I am a ten year old girl who wastes her time on Magic the Gathering and pancakes.

98% of my friends are way older then me. I am 39 and there in there late 50's and way up there. 90% of the time I never go pass my block I live on. I will go out if the mood hits me.

As for being immature or mature for my age that is mixed.
70% immature
30% mature

I used to be very immature for my age, where when I was 12 I acted like I was 8 and I still watched cartoons on Kids CBC until I turned 14. Now I fell I'm almost as mature as my peers; my parents and a lot of my parents' friends say I've matured substantially in the last 3 years. But I still act slightly immaturely when I don't need to be mature, such as when nobody's looking.