Anyone else tired of being told you're too isolated?

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Yes, I find more preferable too, and sadly for the same reasons.

I am constantly being told that I spend way too much time by myself in my room. My family does not understand that a lot of the time, it's to escape them, with the exception of my sister.

Back to the point, I am terrible at making friends and I'm perfectly happy with the people I am friends with now. Yet, my dad won't accept that a few close friends are enough. I don't know what he wants me to have, but maybe it's a huge circle of friends? Whatever he wants is clearly never going to happen with me xD

It’s seems, it’s not what you know but who you know that gets you anywhere or anything in this world. That might be way your dad is acting the way he is. People believe only by networking, getting as many friends or acquaintance as possible can you have a chance at succeeding at whatever it is you are doing.

I'd say go with what makes you happy.

That being said, you might take up some socialization as a personal challenge, versus a have-to. I socialize alot but I'll be the first to admit its extremely difficult for me at times.

The thing is I like socialising but only if I'm in the mood for it, which doesn't happen that often.

My dad and stepmom tell me the same thing whenever the topic comes up....their pointing it out would be helpful if it wasn't the case that I have literally no bleeping clue how NOT to be isolated.

If people tell you this, then apparently you're not isolated enough.

I have had people come to my home without my permission to "check on me" "get me out of the house"... I have heard that I am too isolated "you must not want to be a part of this family you're too quiet and in your room most of the time" lots of stuff like that since I was about 8 years old. This behavior shows the IQ of NT person btw; not so bright.

So many of the comments explain how I feel perfectly. For me I DO want friends and a spouse but it is too hard to find and have good quality people that I am actually compatible with in my life. I wonder if they even exist outside of the internet. I have lived alone for over 6 years. Have failed at my marriage goal and have NO friends. I have been treated poorly by nearly all of my "friends" and many of my relatives. So like others have said I rather be alone.... It is MUCH worse when I am around people that I don't get along with, attempting to fit in I hate the feeling of "needing to fit in". I hate competitive people and I hate envious, irrational people and that seems to be the norm for NTs especially the women. I compete with MYSELF and I never got why people want to out do others why they had to put on a fake smile when something good happened to someone instead of having a real smile. When I see a woman that I think is beautiful my face lights up and if not my insides do lol. When I see anything that to me is super pretty/beautiful I light up. Humans

People, in different places, (at work, hanging out with acquaintances, talking to strangers) tell me that I'm too 'isolated', and that I should 'work on that'.
At first, I took what they said kind of personally and seriously, but after actually attempting to socialise more, and this not working out that magnificently- I decided to not force myself to do something that seems to come easily to the majority of people.
So that makes me something of a loner and a social hermit, so what? I'm not hurting anyone with it, and it certainly isn't hurting me none.
Nowadays, whenever someone tells me- "you should meet more people, get out of the house more, socialise", I say: 'That may work out for SOME people, but it doesn't work for me. I much prefer playing by myself'. And that shuts everybody right up.

I am told I spend too much time in my bedroom by the carers. I don't care. I don't enjoy my housemates' company. Every time I walk downstairs, one of them comes up to me and insists on making conversation. Very annoying. So I stay in my bedroom a lot so I can avoid her.

ha ha! I love that. yeah I've been thinking about this a lot lately too. I used to get a lot of pressure from family to be more social but now I avoid the people who used to say that.

I don't want to network...but I'm not an island either...not yet anyway...

I feel lonely sometimes but socialising, even with friends who I know are pretty accepting, makes me nervous. I don't like going over the conversation in my mind afterwards and second guessing everything I said. I keep pestering my husband asking "was I ok?...was it alright how I said that..." meh. Its not really leisure time if you're working so hard and sweating to keep the conversation going.

I'm beginning to realise what an insensitive jerk I am...and there's only so much I can do to change that...

I'm not sure how I feel...but being alone feels better...it leads to less problems...

I'm not totally alone...I have my Aspie husband...and I have my pets...

anyway, I'm a mad hatter...I only want mad people at my tea party...

Yes.




I don't know if everyone feels the same way, but the truth is that I really don't need to talk to people. I'd happily not talk with people for the rest of my life.