One thing about Aspergers that sucks for me

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Blimey ! !

I'm sorry I mentioned politicians ! ! I should have known better. This thread has gone off the tracks.

You could learn charisma but I think it depends on your personality. I'm introverted and have sensory issues so shut down around a lot of people and in a changing environment. I take Ritalin and I will be friendlier to people and genuinely want to talk about them. And I will talk to them a lot. Not many people have that luxury and not many people will get that result anyway.

Nothing is impossible. When I was a child I had worse issues than AS. I didn't talk to people nor could I do a lot of things for myself, and now I'm almost up to average.

If you really want to be something then work on it. Find ways around your issues. I have always struggled with reading and writing and now that's all I do. I used my natural mimicry of peoples writing styles to teach myself grammar and punctuation. I can replicate my favourite authors style. I even had to learn to write like a verbal thinker. I'm a visual thinker and struggled writing down descriptions.

We might be wired differently but it's not set in stone. Or whatever the proper phrase is. The brain is constantly moulding itself to what we learn and experience.

I've made a lot of progress in my self-education in writing, in social skills and anything else I set my mind to. So much sometimes I'm uncomfortable at the amount of bluntness around here and seemingly little regard to people's emotions from the impact of your words. But I know some people can't help that as I once did.

The antonym of AS is charisma. This is why so many of us aspies dream with positions where we can influence people - we're starved for this basic human need.

It used to be my life dream too. But I can't even get anyone interested in hearing a comment I make at work lunch, let alone lead a nation or persuade an audience.

And I agree, aspies are more quickly rejected the more primitive the NT is. So appealling to the masses is an AS antonym too.

Charisma, by definition, is natural.

What sucks for me is when I ask a question and then either get ignored or laughed in my face, especially since no one else in these businesses done that and that I have engaged in this activity before. I just didn't want to travel to do this again. This was so humiliating for me that I will not even mention it. I'm still hurting over what these 2 so-called business people, especially laughing boy, did.

It's really irksome to think that the social part of life is practically tallied around charisma. You could be a really kind-hearted person, full of good intentions, full of nice gestures, always thinking of others, very polite, and mature and responsible, but if you lack charisma then nobody will want to be with you, or you will only have very few friends.

If you are snotty (as in personality), do stupid things, constantly selfish, rude, ignorant, immature and irresponsible, but have a lot of charisma, people will like you, you get invited to social gatherings with friends, and you will get on.

It really doesn't seem fair. Nature has made a big mistake there.

Joe,

this is exactly what I think. And I'm still convinced that people who are trained to have more charisma that they already have something. But who knows, at the end we are told AS have a negative charisma. That's what I feel sometimes. This means that training makes it even worse.

Instead of debating this to death, it would be nice to hear from other Aspies that one thing sucks for them..

Excessive talking. STFU

To me a charismatic person = interesting person. I never related charisma with social skills. If someone impresses and captivates us, then this person is charismatic.