How has being an Aspie changed ya?

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The other part is learning to better accept NT's, for afterall, they're just being NT's.

I was born an aspie so it's impossible for it to have changed me, it has always been me.

it's really not how being an aspie changed you, but how KNOWING your an aspie changed you.
it made me realize one: i'm not a freak and it gave answers to the questions like, why am i so different from other people, why do i flap my fingers all the time, why do i see the world differently and things that dont bother others bother me a whole lot, etc. i was so confused. i didnt understand myself.
two: now i see there are others like me out there and i'm not alone. and now if i dont understand someone i say the wrong thing, i dont feel so embarrassed and dont take it so hard like i used to.

For many years after I found out, my knowledge of my diagnosis caused me great pain. I had to go through a long downward spiral of self-destructive behavior. Ultimately however, I think it made me see the things that make me who I am in a more positive light. Knowing that I'm an aspie has probably given me more wisdom than I will ever get anywhere else.

The Q means essentially, "Since you were diagnosed with Aspie's, or at least suspected you had it, how have you changed as a person overall?"

Well, I've always been the same person, so it didn't change me at all. However, I did feel a sense of relief after realizing that I'm not a dysfunctional normal (neurotypical) person, I'm just abnormal (non-neurotypical). Perhaps it's superficial but realizing there was a legitimate explanation for me being "different" made me feel better. I'm not messed up (as I've been told for as long as I can remember), I'm simply wired differently. It's helped me start to accept me for the person that I am, to stop loathing that person and even start growing fond of them, and start healing the wounds that I have so that one day, I shall be able to wear my scars with pride.

Since I've 100% accepted being Aspie (even though I'm not done the formal diagnosis) I have been so much happier. I am finally truly comfortable in my own skin and while I would like to be able to better get along with friends and understand social cues, I'm not diseased and I don't want to be 'cured'. It's also comforting to know it wasn't my fault I was not only the youngest in my class but a very slow developer and that's why I was bullied.

Having researched Autism made me realize that I would have never ended up with my girlfriend as before I understood Autism I would have dismissed her as cold, disinterested and stuck up but in reality she is anything but!

Uh..., a big one would be how the disorder is defined.

I guess...that being born with a disability helps as you don't know any better. I find people who acquire disabilities later on often have a harder time with it, as it takes away something that they've always known.

My discovery of a mild form of autism was a revelation, I had no idea autistic people were even functional in the least. Then I read the DSM and it was like lightning striking me. It explained everything. I was 32.

My self-esteem improved, that was the main thing. I also make better decisions now about what will suit me. My relationship with my parents improved, I realized both my father and grandfather were probably aspies. Being as aspie is also an explanation (to my parents) for why I don't call, or marry, or do anything social.

It hasn't changed me. I was diagnosed for the first time when I was 6, but my mother told me I had AS only when I was 13 (when I was re-diagnosed not only with Asperger's, but with Tourette's, too). It was neither a revelation, nor a consolation for me. I only understood why I acted in a certain way. That's all.

I have overestimated the relief that came with it.
Actually, it changed my whole character a bit. and still changing.
That isnt easy at all, i am/was quite depressed.

Thought aspies were more similar too each other
and that it would be easy to find people that are like me. Nope.
Came to the conclusion that they are more different than NTs to NTs.

Still knowing who you are and why is really important. It helps you so much in understanding the things and yourself!

Realising my OC(D) traits was even more important. OCD (doing something that you dont want to but you have to to vent) sucks!
Anxiety too sucks.
But knowing them makes it easier to fight them.

knowing you're an aspie is very important because youd otherwise potentially running from doc to doc without them realising you're on the spectrum!

Well it didn do anything, besides putting a name on something.

I mean the label itself doesnt change anything, its still what ive had and always been like since ive been born.

I was born an Aspie, so there wasn't anything to change me. Once I've accepted my AS, I've changed and became a much more pleasant person to be with. I wasn't a bitter character who was always trying to prove myself, anymore.

It helped me stop blaming myself for not being accepted, for not knowing how to socialise, and generally being different.

I also don't try as hard to fit in, which has its downsides as people notice my differences even more.