Do you find it hard interacting online socially?

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I have major problems with communication..yet on line i find it easy to talk ..maybe because you are not in front of people so you can say what you feel

Nope...most of the time if its not some quick statement or simple question or something, I barely am able to type up something and feel comfortable enough that it makes sense to me and to the person Im trying to communicate with, goes with IRL too.
Alot of the time I have an idea of what I need to ask/say or a fleeting thought I need to throw in, but it's really hard to type it out because seems alot of the time I need to talk in a round-about way or play into the conversational "dance" (back and forth)
just so people understand or get to a level where they somehow now have a clearer head to understand what I mean or are more comfortable with it, basically I feel Im unable to make small talk and lack the know-how to slowly progress to more deeper conversation (which is where I tend to start and where I draw my questions and understanding from)
so then people give me proper answers to the question or replies to the things I wanna say, because alot of the time I sense they are just bullshitting me and saying things to steer me away from things I wanna say and another problem is if I happen to stumble into a spot where a person is more comfortable around me and talks much more open I tend to shut off actually participating and figure out "how the hell did I get here?" or something.

It's not easy, but definitely easier than irl.

Same here (see sig). I'm not even completely sure why I feel that way, but I do.

Online is easier than in person, and I do a lot of online interactions, but that doesn't mean I don't end up having issues with it.

^THIS. Also, I spend a fair amount of time going back to things I've posted and deleting them, espesh if somebody makes kind of a 'snippy' reply, and that's not how I meant it, then I worry that they took it wrong, and I edit and delete like a neurotic freak

Can't interact online any better than offline. It takes so things away sure. But I still don't get how socializing works. And. Don't really have much interest anymore.

It is a little bit better online, but not by much. I am both terrible at interacting online and in real life.

Last edited by humanhatred on 29 Oct 2012, 1:48 am, edited 1 time in total.

yeah same problem here.

Like to talk to people in real.
Then I can connect much better to them than through some text form.

Audio is also my strength to compensate other shortcomings, including some emotional recognition

This.

At least I can have an immediate feedback of what I have said by the means of listening to the tone of voice and some obvious body language (e.g. wide gestures -> emotionally disturbed or upset).

Online I often wonder what I have said was appropriate or not. OK, I'm an alien here since I'm from Eastern Europe, yet I feel that it's hard to connect with people here. I have less problem at home, but still not the most fluent online. I don't like internet chat at all.

Offline (IRL) the hardest thing is to communicate in group setting. Yes, then I'm nervous and can't communicate as clearly as in writing. I have no problem with one-on-one communication, aside from coming off as weird...

@ OP: I'm really glad to see I'm not the only one with this problem. Up until reading this, I actually thought I was pretty dysfunctional, for not even being able to express myself, on an annonymous online site, lol.

I am exactly the same Topic Creator. Even now I dont really know what to say. I've tried communicating with people on here in the chat channel, but sadly my attempts to have a steady conversation with someone continues to fail. Conversations I engage in always seems to end in awkward silence and simply dies out. I dont understand.

It is always depressing to know I am gaining no progress in fully understanding proper communication. Whoever I am engaged in a conversation with always seems to move on to another person, ignoring me for the remainder of the day.

I've answered this type of thread a few times, but - yes, very.

interact-no
i read and post but i find it best to limit my interactions. i get confused in chat rooms, and they go too fast.i have no filter and can be very rude ,but at the same time i don't like making people mad, at the same time i do like to affend people?

Online is hard, I need time to review my words so, no chatting. Phone calls are difficult as well, I just don't answer and text back if they left a voice mail.

It depends. I'm fine with things like this and emails, since I can spend a lot of time figuring things out and crafting them. IMs? Way too quick. Too much pressure. I literally made it a policy that I don't do it with anyone since it stresses me out, especially having to juggle a dozen people at once.

I think I know what you mean. Like for example, when someone starts a conversation on Facebook, and drags me into it as well, I simply can't be bothered to contribute anything. I have nothing to add to the conversation, because I JUST DON'T CARE.