Straight men: Have you ever been called gay before?

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Over the years many people have thought i was gay even my parents

I would estimate that 90% of other men and boys thought I was Gay when I was still in school, and probably 50% thereafter. There is a narrow-mindedness among (particularly) straight men & boys, whereby if another man or boy does not exhibit the perfect scenario of masculinity, he's automatically Gay... Nothing in between; it's it's either all-studly-man or all Gay. I just got used to it and ignored it, and never had any problems other than annoyance and maybe missing out on getting invited to things that polite straight friends wouldn't think a Gay person would want to do, etc. I also found that in several cases, girls liked me but wouldn't consider being interested in me because they thought I wasn't interested in girls. One even told me that she wanted to get to know me, but she refrained because her friends (other girls) told her that if she paid attention to me, people would think she was closet Lesbian and would have hooked up with a Gay boy to hide it.

The positive outcome of all that, was that I have an empathy for the Gay community, and I have many Gay friends because of it. Ironically, I have never been thought to be Gay by any Gay people! It's weird, but only straight boys & men think I'm Gay. I can also have Lesbian friends, as if they are in relationships, their partners aren't threatened by me, as they say they could be if a straight man is friends with one partner in a Lesbian couple.

Charles

Yes. I'm asexual which confuses a lot of people. I have never had a girlfriend therefore apparently I must be gay. The fact that I have never had a boyfriend either doesn't seem to make any difference I actually find it quite amusing.

One friend of mine has a dog which stays in the car when he comes over. To stop it barking at passing traffic I close my big outside gate. I very seldom close that gate during the day and it never occurred to either of us that closing the gate was almost like hanging up a 'do not disturb' sign. One of my neighbors is now convinced we are a couple. We've been friends since we were kids and even if I was gay it would be too much like being interested in my own brother

Yes, most people and nearly all the girls I've dated. It's much easier to get hit on in a gay bar than in a straight bar, AND I wouldn't have to ask anyone out. I really do wish homosexuality were a "choice" like the Republicans claim because then my life would be so much easier.

Yeah, Ricky Santorum, here is one instance where I wish what you say were true; sadly, it isn't...

There seem to be only two types of people to ever call me "Gay":

1. Alpha males who seemed to believe that non-alphas simply must be gay, or they wouldn't be non-alphas.

2. Gay males who seemed to wish that I was gay.

Other than that, I've never really noticed.

I'm the opposite: I'm gay and everyone thinks I'm straight. I've had a hell of a time in the past trying to convince certain ladies who found me attractive that this was the case. They usually just thought that I was coming up with some excuse to reject them.

Yes because I dress well my brother thinks i'm gay.

But my brother is gay and I think he just says that because he doesn't want to be the only gay in the family.

There's nothing wrong with being gay but I think he feels this way.

I'm straight but every girl seems to think I'm gay. Tbh I find this really annoying as sexuality is a fundamental part of you and the girl saying that kind of 'usurps' the friendship/relationship. This is especially true when you have known the girl for a while and she says "when I met you, I thought you was gay". When all the while you have either tried to be a good friend to her or attempted to chat her up, initiate a relationship etc. When I ask why they think/thought this they can't really give a good answer really. Its usually a very vague one e.g. " you have a skinhead or whatever" or " i dunno i just did". Their reasoning makes no sense and seems to come from a place of social stereotypes mangling their intuitions. No men think I'm gay as far as I know. Strange yeah, potentially embarrassing yeah. I've grown up doing and acting the nice caring way the world told me to do but to find now that these traits are considered strange or gay especially to women is very annoying tbh.

lol I didn't know this was common. To answer: No, never called, but people have asked me before. It doesn't bother me though cause I know why they ask lol.

Others have thought of me being gay before but I'm actually openly and securely heterosexual.

Only through rumors, but that was ages ago.

Yes, more times than I care to remember. I really don't understand why either. I guess people just don't understand what is different and they look to put you in some kind of category for some reason.

10th grade, seemed to just be general teasing/bullying/etc. Didn't get serious though.

First girlfriend about two months ago though ;P

Yeah, by some bullies from HELL. They most likely knew I wasn't, but they had to keep it going.