Really hate being late for appointments but always are

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Autism spectrum disorders are caused by neurological problems. This includes time distortion issues. For my entire life, the normal world has run too fast for me to keep up. I often read about people who have very full lives, doing all sorts of stuff in their work, then doing stuff like a lot of charity work, then doing a lot of fun activities, and somehow they manage to do it all in a normal 24/7 time frame. It boggles my mind, because I can't see how they can get that all done within that time period, and not collapse from exhaustion. Long ago I stopped trying to keep up, when I realized that it wasn't possible for me to do that.

I'm the same way. I have the hardest time being on time. Not that I'm ever REALLY late, but I'm always running in at the last minute, or 5 or so minutes late. I'll often just be absorbed in whatever I'm doing, and think, "oh, I'll be able to get ready on time", but then it takes longer than I anticipated to get dressed, get my stuff together, etc.

For me, there is a specific window where I want to arrive: no more than 5 minutes early up to right on time.

As a result of worrying about being too early, I often end up arriving late, but not really really late - just a few minutes late.

I do tend to associate OCD more with being late than ASD, with regards to having to make sure everything is perfect before being able to move on to something else, even if it will result in lateness.

That said, there is a big overlap between OCD and ASD, so I could see those same traits causing lateness in ASD as well.