Question about AS and hiding.

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In junior high school, I would sometimes spend lunch in the bathroom stall just sitting there so I wouldn't have to be around all those loud, obnoxious kids.

It's the "hide or escape" reflex I feel, esp. when things seem to be going poorly. I don't want to be in other people's environments-I'm less uncomfortable with people visiting me, so long as they're not jerks & don't stay long. I like to know where I'm going before I leave the house, and not have surprise extra errands along the way. I feel overexposed just going out my door to check the mail, I don't want to be seen.

I still hid in the closet or under the bed until they got too full of stuff for me to fit myself as well. Sigh. Like "coccooning", crawling under heavy pillows & soft blankets. I'm agoraphobic-at home I seek claustrophobic conditions that would be intolerable if I were anyplace else. I'm grateful to have my own apt. & right to control access to my "nest".

I went to pick my son up from a birthday party once - and he had disappeared. The parent of the birthday boy went crazy and were about to phone the police. There was a frantic search - but yes, they'd been playing hide and seek so he was still waiting to be found...

I would hide in coat closets, under beds, in the family trailer, garden shed, in circular clothes racks, behind the sofa.....now I hide in my own home.

Sometimes, at lunch I just wander the halls. Also I like to hide under the covers in my room, and the closet. Corners are good hiding spots too.
Because of this, I am the master at hide and seek, I never get found, and I know where to find everybody else.

I used to hide in my parents closet behind the dresses when I was 5 because I had a mean nanny. I also crawled in clothes racks but I was just playing, my brothers did the same too.
I have done other things like being in the attic, and I can remember hiding when I get mad.

I don't hide anymore.

The mail thing gets me too! The only time I don't mind walking is at night. In the day I'd rather grab it in my auto on the way to errands, or ride my bike down and get it. The worst part is that when I'm working on my car, or yard, or thingy, I can effectively ignore the prospect of people because where I live there's really no one around, ever. And they aren't particularly social when they are out, so they don't really impinge on my space per say. It's summoning the will to go outside that's the hardest part. And jeez, I can't ask a girl out for the life of me, especially one I'm crushing on.

I used to love constructing small hiding spaces as a kid. I made awesome couch forts! I also had a carboard box that i kept in the living room for awhile. it has a drawbridge door that only i could open from the inside. i kept all sorts of secret things in there, like bubbles and my diary and a flashlight. when i was under 5, i would sometimes cover myself completely in blankets until i was too hot and couldn't see or hear, and i would pretend i was a baby who hadn't been born.

I still coveryself entirely in blankets and pillows . . .I can't sleep any other way. Even when it's hot - a sheet doesn't provide enough weight to make me feel safe. Ihave to have a blanket or other heavy covering. I told the guy I'm dating, it's my way of ceasing to exist for a while.

Maybe instead of asking a girl out, you could ask her IN? Invite her over for a meal or for something easier like coffee or tea or something?

Definitely try to find a way to meet up with her. You may be missing a wonderful opportunity and you would not get the chance again if you do.

Best of Luck,
:> earthmom

I used to love little hiding places. We had this wardrobe in my old house, which had shelves, and I used to climb up and sit on the top shelf, which was very difficult to do, but worth it. Luckily, it was well built so never collapsed on me. Sometimes, I'd just sit in a room (like the bathroom, between the bath and the sink) between two objects. It wasn't a hiding space per se, but because the bath and the sink were close together, I could fit snuggly between the two so it was like a comfort thing. It relaxed me.

My mum used to get worried/concerned about this "hiding phrase" though so I rarely hid, unless I had a good reason for it to explain to her (like playing hide and seek or something). It annoyed me that I couldn't hide when I wanted too. I think my mum thought I was depressed/upset about something and that's why she'd ask all the questions and get concerned but I wasn't, I just enjoyed hiding and if I could, I would have hid in places for hours.

I'm 18 now so it's a little harder to hide in small places like closets (though I do miss my little hinding space in the wardrobe) but now, I just tend to hide away in my home instead. I feel so exposed and vulnerable when I'm out or around other people.

Those are definitely excellent points for the date itself. I have the most trouble with any initial contact, I just can't speak worth a damn... As attraction increases, articulation decreases! I can't agree with you more about missing out on a great chance I have had, or chances I may have had. To a certain extent, someone who I only saw occasionally I might be able to contact via a social networking site, but there is one screw up I can't do anything about. In any event, that's what I need to focus on now. Thanks for the advice!

You could try writing her a letter. That's the beauty of email - you have time to think, you can change stuff before you send it. If it's a letter or an email you could construct it exactly as you want, even say "I get all tongue tied when I'm near you" or something. It could be quite flattering and cute for her.

I do wish you the best of luck - follow your heart! The rest will fall into place.

:> earthmom