Correcting People

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Yes , when someone gets a fact wrong which I know is right , I can not help it but to correct them and say something like " Well , hang on THIS actually happened "

Lets just say Conspiracy theory's piss me off.

Yes, I'm like that too. Mistakes make me cringe, and it's really hard for me to resist the urge to correct people.

I used to be really bad about correcting people, but I learned not to as I got older. I still notice mistakes, but I don't point them out. Inappropriate apostrophes are particularly irritating to me.

Do you still correct them silently in your head though? I almost never correct anyone out loud anymore but it still bothers me enough that I have to do it to myself silently. I wonder if I will ever stop being bothered by it.

I was so proud for not correcting my son's teacher early on in the school year. To this day, her error still bugs the bejeezus out of me. Every time I think of it I want to jump out of my skin!

I let DS5 bring a piece of fluorite to school. The teacher asked him what it was. I whispered "fluorite" to him which he repeated. The teacher said, "Oh FLUORIDE! That's what you find in toothpaste!" I wanted to howl. My first reflex was to correct her, but I managed to purposefully stop myself. Instead, I just stood and grinned, stood and grinned...

If this had happened a few years ago I probably would have corrected her, and probably would not have had a very good relationship with his teacher.

Yes, I still correct them in my head. I doubt I'll ever stop.

Same here. I also feel pretty bad about myself when I spot myself making an error of this sort, which does happen.

I'm pretty down on myself in general, even with things that other people can apparently forgive me for pretty readily. (Though on the other hand I seem sometimes to forgive myself for things others get on me about...)

Me too.

Yes, I can't stand when people say things like, "...... gave it to him and I." It's "TO ME! ME! ME!"
ARGHGHGHGHGHGHHGHGGGGGG!! !! !!
And when people say "AKS" instead of "ASK", it takes all my effort to keep my mouth shut and I can't hear anything else they say after because the error is still echoing loudly in my head.
A big pet peeve: using "IT'S" instead of "ITS"! I don't care how it's spelled in their world, its proper use is without an apostrophe, and yet they keep putting apostrophes where they don't belong! In fact, this is a fine example of what would make me irritated:
I don't care how it's spelled, it's proper use is without an apostrophe, and yet they keep putting apostrophe's where they don't belong!

One of the methods I use to correct people in a non intrusive or offensive way is to form the corrective statements in the form of a question just like they do with the answers on the game show "Jeopardy". I found that being more suggestive then being blunt about your corrective statements tends to less offensive and go by much better. Granted, The person you are trying to correct may not always accept your answer but at least you toss the idea up in the air.

Even now I can't help not correcting somebody, it's like a pet peeve when somebody blatantly gets something wrong. Luckily it doesn't annoy people as much, though my friends will refer to me as a "Sheldon" when I do it.

Actually, I have a problem with the opposite. I don't correct people enough, because I'm always afraid of making them feel stupid, even though sometimes misinterpreting something or someone doesn't mean they are stupid but it's just the way I feel.

Like once when I was eating a cake, one of my colleagues came up to me and said, ''oooh, yum, you've got one of those cup cakes, I love those''. The cake I was eating wasn't a cup cake at all, it was just an ordinary cake with jam and cream in the middle. But I felt afraid to correct her, so I said, ''yes, it is delicious'', then when she walked past again she saw what I was eating then said, ''oh, no, that's not a cup cake.'' So then I was the one that felt stupid! I wish I had just corrected her in the first place and just said, ''it's not a cup cake, it's just an ordinary cake with jam in the middle''. I really should learn to correct people more often.

I used to always do it, but I was told people find it rude so I stopped.

Well, as the Original Poster, I must declare I've never seen a thread where people use such wonderful spelling, punctuation and grammar. Well done all! It's been a worthwhile experiment
It's good to see people still care!

I allways feel like correcting people on factual mistakes but only if im certain that i know the answer based on reliable sources. its been a problem through the years but ive taught myself restraint, but god damnit its annoying when people say the wrong things.

I was more like this when I was younger. Even to the point of when someone said something I knew was wrong but I didn't know enough about the subject to be emphatically correct, I needed to research it to pose a conclusive case. Which, of course, is a lot of work for nothing. Things like text that quote numbers, but quote them as words in some places and digits in others can irk me. When I was a child, fictional pieces that contained real places or events used to send my logic circuits into a spin. I think this is more a feature of ASD rather than an OCD. ASD tends to be more subject focused, rather than the more typical personal focused. When the subject is flawed all the warning bells start sounding inside your head.

If a woman asks you “What do you think of my new dress?” They're seeking positive affirmation. “That's actually a skirt, not a dress” is critical and counter to their ambition in the encounter. Often met with something like “If I wanted to know that I'd take a course, not ask you how my dress looked.” To the question “Does my bum look fat in this?” The correct answer is not “Your bum is a specific mass, what you wear wont change it. Only gaining or losing weight will.” The correct answer is always “No, you look beautiful darling.” Even if they look like the rear end of a horse.