Aspergers Syndrome is ruining my life

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Thank you Verdandi, hearing it does help a lot. People usually seem to not understand how much "high-functioning"-AS individuals can suffer. The prevalent depressive and suicidal thoughts among us should give a clue, I suppose.

I am beginning to understand it a lot better and realize how difficult it must be.

Some aspects of AS are legitimately debilitating in important ways. But many of our problems are a result of being a small minority thus not understood or feared by the majority. Enhancing the problems are that many of our difficulties are invisible and we are different in the area the majority places the highest value on, Social Skills.

This makes our chances of success very small but the chance for success is greater then zero which is still higher then if we do nothing and give up.

Making friends for me tends to be harder in real life, as opposed to behind say, a computer screen. I think if my real friends knew I was an Aspie that might put things in perspective for them.

I can somewhat relate to you as well, because it is hard to fit societal expectations when your brain is wired to meet different expectations than 99% of everyone elses. Because of me not fitting in, I feel too afraid to grow up by getting an education and getting a job and even moving out (although I don't want to because I like where I live) because I have a difficult time dealing with negative emotions and feel like I don't have the courage to move forward.

I hope things will be better for you in the future. My only advice would be to think about what you actually want out of life, and what you can do about it, step by step. In times of depression, the ability to persist with a task can be a gift.

The original post in this thread is over two years old. It is desirable to stick with current topics, as very old threads, though still relevant, may not even have the other parties still here or still reading your comments.

You have a point but accepting who you are can also be a subjective thought.. Who's not to say that, accepting that I'm a "loser" and I am who I am will make me feel better? Not that it's a great comparison but I don't think we should ever end there.

I like to take a step beyond that and say there's so much more that can be done. In fact, those who come out and say Aspergers itself is ruining their lives probably don't identify themselves as being that illness, even though they may fall into the spectrum.

Let me ask you this, is Aspergers itself ruining your life or the circumstances in your life?

You kinda seem like the type of person I was when I was 21. I was like that until I understood what I needed to bring me out of the shell, now I'm employed and do have some friends even though my life isn't perfect I don't feel as miserable.

Also, there's so much misunderstanding about Autism and ADD that it's stopping us from helping so many people. It's just a categorization of symptoms and probably due to a number of things; let's identify some of them: How's your diet? How's your relationship with peers? What do you want out of life? Etc.

If you want to be more social and you're finding it difficult to socialize with others it's probably because you have social anxiety and there's so much that can be done about that like taking 5HTP supplementation.