The Complete Guide to Asperger's

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I'm going to make a mental note of Tony Atwood

My friend said normal is stereotype. I don't wanna be stereotype, so if someone finds out how to "cure" my reality... oh well you know... Sorry pal...

NTs will drag me off to lunch with them any chance they get. They also like to talk to me like I'm some sort of therapist. They think I'm a good listener. Acutally, they drain me. I didn't have much of the problems in school many of you had because many of them liked my stories and wanted to get to read them. So, I was around them for a great portion of my life (really until I started working in Technology, although they are still around as testers, business analysts, implementation coordinators and project managers). Here's what I've observed. Most of them are emotive feelers (it was intresting when I read about Meyers Briggs and found out most people are Extroverted and Feelers). They are very dramatic. They seem to thrive in that drama. There is always their breakup, someone in the family is breaking up, house problems, kid problems, house projects they are starting which will be house problems next week, work problems. They consistently talk negatively about others. They are jealous of what other people have. They imagine they are paid more, get better assignments, aren't noticed if they aren't working and are promoted based on no merit. That is a huge one. They are terribly insecure. They need a better job at work, their boyfriend isn't worthy, they can find a better girl, their neighbors or co-workers have more, someone has a better car, etc. and it all comes back to why do they have it and I don't. It's truly bizarre to me and I've seen it equally with NT women and men. Big time insecurity and jealousy. I've also noticed they marry without thinking about compatibility and frequently divorce after one or two kids. Then, they complain about their ex-spouse for years, somehow forgetting that it just makes them look ridiculous that they picked someone who has that many problems.


I know that probably sounds like I really dislike them, but I don't. Actually, they are kind of amusing to me because most of what they do they are unaware of and certainly don't analyze although they give that lip service. But, the reason I stay away from them is that they exhaust me. All of that emotional display just exhausts me. I can't deal with it. I either space out on them and go off into my head or I simply say, "Okay, I'm done listening now," and turn around to go back to work. They really overload me. They do get something out of that, but whatever it is, I really don't want it and I don't miss it.

I bought it on sale from the publisher...JKP
It's a very good book.
Tony Attwook knows what he is talking about.
I liked it.

I just finished reading that book. It is the best book about AS i have read so far! Tony Atwood doesn't have AS but he treats ppl with AS with allot of compassion and respect.

Just ordered my copy from Amazon. It was mighty convenient that my husband told me to order something to take advantage of the SuperSaver shipping special.

I ordered this book instead of the silly "very, very, very, very sensitive people and how totally awesome we are!" book my therapist recommended. Should be receiving it today.

I also read this book and found it to be very informative and a very good explanation to me about myself and why I seem to be so different, weird, freaky or whatever other word you want to use compared to most people I've met.

It was reading this book that caused me to decide yes, Asperger's Syndrome probably is what explains my social awkwardness; more than introversion, more than my Meyer's Briggs personality type (ISTJ), more than being of a "Peculiar People" (I get this from the Bible, okay, it says Christians are called out to be a peculiar people), more than being raised by wolves.

I wasn't really raised by wolves, but I was raised by a mom who never understood why the other ladies didn't include her at the same social status levels they had. She might be on the autism spectrum, too, but she isn't very open to exploring that possibility.

Anyway, what I opened this post to say is this:

Tony Attwood's Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome is an excellent resource. I really, really, really wish I could find an Aspie's Complete Guide to Neurotypicals that was half as good because I don't understand "normal" people!