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24 May 2014, 7:06 pm

Yeah, part-time participation is all I can handle too, a either part-time job or part-time school and socializing must be kept to a minimum.



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24 May 2014, 7:45 pm

qawer wrote:
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Does anyone else feel like that's what they could handle without being in a constant state of collapse from exhaustion?
Part time work, part time socialising, part time relationship?
I don't know how people can handle a full-time job, a social life and a relationship. How do they even find enough hours in the day?


NTs in fact gain energy from socializing. Opposite us. Socializing for them gives them energy just as we get it from alone time.


I don't understand how energy can be gained by socializing with people. It just doesn't make any sense at all


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24 May 2014, 8:03 pm

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The Squid's answer is a wonderful two jobs, both paying $7.50 an hour! :x


This is one of those moments that reminds me how lucky I am to live in Australia where we actually have a decent minimum wage.


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24 May 2014, 8:05 pm

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I want more out of life. I just don't have the energy to do more. People exhaust me but it's not just being around people that makes me tired. It's just going places and doing things in general, seeing too many different things for my eyes to take in, too much light, breathing in bad air and smells and too much dust, too many temperature changes, hearing too many jumbled up sounds and loud sounds and unexpected sounds, and trying to understand what people are saying when background noise is drowning them out, and most of all the movements of people and things around me which gives me seasick out of balance feeling. It makes me feel like my brain is nauseated.


I don't think you have to wonder anymore if your problems are due to autism. These things you mention are highly characteristic of a person with ASD.

Its the exact same thing I experience. Part of the reason I keep life as simple as possible. That seasick feeling you mention happens all the time when I get overwhelmed.


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24 May 2014, 8:07 pm

i couldn handle a part time job or any job that requires me to meet x amount of hours or x days. Thats the reason why i have disability pension.

Because the nature of how i am and by problem. some times i can be near impossible to just get out of bed, to say nothing about doing regular stuff..

And no work place here can adapt to fit that kind of random behavior, where oh you can just meet for work when you feel up to it.



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24 May 2014, 8:09 pm

I work about 45 hours a week, and it?s plenty of work AND social time.
When I talk, I do so really "soft," and determining my volume so I can talk loud enough and clear enough is tiring. Dealing with customers is tiring. Listening to my coworkers tell me about how their husbands hate eating vegetables is tiring.
When I?m finished, I?m so drained of tolerance that the thought of doing anything besides returning home is daunting. I tried to explain this to a potential date; he only wanted to go out on a weekend, and I work 6am-3pm every Saturday and Sunday. He decided I was avoiding him and quit talking to me. Lol, oh well.



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24 May 2014, 8:43 pm

Dreycrux wrote:
I don't think you have to wonder anymore if your problems are due to autism. These things you mention are highly characteristic of a person with ASD.

Its the exact same thing I experience. Part of the reason I keep life as simple as possible. That seasick feeling you mention happens all the time when I get overwhelmed.


Thank you for this. I still wonder if it could be some other kind of neurological problem.



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24 May 2014, 9:15 pm

I can relate to that in the past for sure.. only being able to cope with part time work, part time exposure to people etc.

Now, I work more than full time. I don't have a relationship. I've had a bit of a social life, but with working very physical jobs I'm usually pretty tiiiiired after work, and sometimes down right exhausted, and thus have not maintained much of a social life. I'm not a shut-in hermit, either, though. I'd just like to see some friends and family a bit more often than I have lately is all. Eventually I'll add a relationship into the mix, but for now I'm content with working quite a bit and seeing friends/family when I can. Hopefully I'm not too tired to partake in some sports I love this Summer! I'll have to plan for that & figure out just how I'm going to balance everything I want to balance. It's difficult to also keep up with workouts/stretching/running, as well as cooking, cleaning, other obligations & life situations to deal with, reading, finances... etc - but that's LIFE! ..and so far I'm still alive, so I must be doing pretty good :P heck, every single day I break my own personal record for number of days alive!! :P

Overall I'd say I'm doing a better job at balancing life than I have in the past, and better than many I know, but I still have room for improvement and of course various priorities will change as my life situation changes, goals change, opportunities present themselves etc. Just gotta keep rolling with the punches and do the absolute best we can manage. 8)


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24 May 2014, 9:42 pm

No sir, Unfortunately the Squid has yet to obtain a degree. That being said however, we are currently in the process of saving money to attend college. This is yet another reason we're working so much. We're on track to attend a local college by year's end. Our car payment is less than $3K off from being paid, which will go in no time as well, which will free up time and money! We must simply persevere until then.

-Sincerely Archibald Squid, and Host Body.



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25 May 2014, 5:51 am

Sound like you're doing an excellent job, sir. What will you guys be majoring in?



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25 May 2014, 6:02 am

qawer wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
Does anyone else feel like that's what they could handle without being in a constant state of collapse from exhaustion?
Part time work, part time socialising, part time relationship?
I don't know how people can handle a full-time job, a social life and a relationship. How do they even find enough hours in the day?


NTs in fact gain energy from socializing. Opposite us. Socializing for them gives them energy just as we get it from alone time.


Very true! Socializing totally drains my energy, unless it is with someone I know well and am comfortable with (my husband for example). But even then I need alone time or else I start feeling "crowded". If I have a project that I am very interested in, a website for example, I can works for hours and hours on it, but on the other hand if I have to go, for example, to a family reunion, I am tired after an hour or 2, and it even shows physically, I get pale and I'm falling asleep lol.


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27 May 2014, 2:14 pm

I WISH I could do everything part-time. Living a full-time life is just plain exhausting and I am just tired of being tired from exhaustion.


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