Should I continue to hang out with this person?

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From what you wrote, it sounds that a lot of the story is what other people said. Can they be trusted? It's not a good idea to simply believe what people say. Many people enjoy malicious gossip. They sometimes exaggerate or even lie to make someone look bad. So he might be a victim of malicious gossip. It's just a possibility. If he does something directly to you that makes you uncomfortable, you certainly have no obligation to be around him. Otherwise, you could give him a chance. That's my opinion.

You should never feel obliged to spend time with people who make you uncomfortable. That's not fair to either you or him. Even if he's not aware of your issues with him, I'm sure that if asked, he wouldn't want to hang out with someone who doesn't like him; no more than you'd want to hang out with someone you don't like. Like another user explained, it may take him a little longer to recognize personal boundaries than most people, but that's no concern of yours. It's ultimately up to him to learn how to respect peoples' space.