Prettier people don't get bullied as much...?

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Maybe not so much physical bullying, but attractive people can be excluded or frozen out by others who are jealous. A jealous person may start a rumour about them behind their back. I've seen this happen to one of the prettiest women I know. For years she couldn't find good friends who wouldn't stab her in the back. Then she met me and some other good friends who don't let her down. She's a decent person, so I can only conclude that jealousy was the reason others turned on her.

Pretty people get bullied just as much as those who well... aren't as attractive. Bullies will go after anyone nowadays. The reason is because a lot of bullies want to feel good about themselves, so they pick on someone who's either weaker or stronger than they are. That's how I've always seen it. Jealousy can also play apart in bullying for those that are more attractive. Popular girls like in movies and TV often bully other girls because they are jealous of the other girl's beauty.

I think it depends on what kind of bullying, and what you mean by pretty. If you are talking about wearing makeup and dressing the way others think is cool, then yes that usually gives some immunity from being bullied or picked on.

But when a female is model-pretty, others will be jealous. They may not bully her directly, they may do it more passive-aggressively with backstabbing and gossip.

When a female is pretty in a sexy way, it can attract a lot of unwanted male attention, including bullying or taunting.

When a male has a "pretty" look, unless he makes a point of offsetting that by constantly proving his masculinity, he is likely going to be considered gay and may be bullied for that.

Guys can feel jealous or threatened by someone who is attractive, the same way gals do, but I think the guys are more likely to become aggressive about it.

Maybe not to the same extent, but I've noticed that handsome men are treated much better than average or unattractive men.

Sometimes it can be just social exclusion or being ignored.

When I finally made an attempt to lose weight back in my senior year of high school, my classmates started to notice... A few boys, mainly classmates who were involved in sports/sports related activities, approached me during class on one or two occasions. I wasn't sure if they were teasing me or not so I really did not know what to make of it. (If I was genuinely interested in them I would have figured it out, but I'm fine with not knowing.) Then again I was the only diaspora Japanese girl in most of my classes so maybe that played a role in my situation.

Naturally I don't find it easy to warm up to others so I only felt partially flattered by the whole experience. The next time it happened I was about to take the bus home. I could tell he was a student as well (and went to the same community college as me) but I didn't know him well so I declined giving out my contact info.

Although...since I frequent places such as thisisnotjapan on Tumblr these days, I'm starting to get it now. If I do run into other guys who are interested in me in the near future, it's probably because they are not all that interested in getting to know me. I may not always be aware of it, but any guy who approaches me might have a fetish towards Asian or particularly Japanese women and that's problematic. I refuse to be around someone who objectifies me and has preconceived notions that I'm submissive, shy, good in bed, and a good cook. I don't fit any of those traits.