Why do I say I'm sorry all the time?

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I do that regularly on social issues.

I do that because I was taught to do that and that I'm normally in the wrong.

I tend to use "please", "thank you" and "sorry" too much myself and the reason is, is that I really don't know how to use these words, properly. All I know is that NT's can get really upset with you, if you don't use them.

I do the same thing. I say sorry all the time (bumping into someone, stating something incorrect, not knowing the answer to something, etc.). People seem to get weirded out and insist that I don't need to apologize, but I really don't see the big deal. It's not like I say it with deep anguish or anything. I always thought it was colloquial way of acknowledging the incident. Maybe it is also colloquial to say to someone who just said they were sorry that it's not a big deal, or whatever.

Yes, I suffer from anxiety. At my full time job my managers tell me I'm not doing my job well enough. They ask why things that come natural for my peers are so difficult for me. I do not understand what they are referring to. I ask for clarification and they say that I should know what there talking about. I think I have developed some paranoia. Now because I do not know what I'm doing wrong I just say I'm sorry all the time. The manager that asked me to stop saying it is at my part time job. I just started working in the photo center last month. I'm in the process of learning and getting use to my co-workers. I seem to be in the way when it is real busy. I'm standing and watching what they are doing in order to learn. I get bumped into allot. I forgot to take the trash out one night because it is not something I'm use to doing. When I told them I'm sorry about that I also told them I must be losing my mind and that I would make sure to remember next time. I'm working in retail and I think in general they do not want us to say I'm sorry to the customers either. It is telling them that the store made a mistake.

I think that's it too. I still say "sorry" when I do anything remotely wrong. It's kind of a reflex; I'm afraid to not say it.

Wish I knew. I used to say it all the time as well and a good friend told me to stop…I did. Every once in a while, I start up again but catch myself.

I think what it might be, is just basic insecurity----I used to do it all-the-time, too, when I was really young. I think what you might really be saying is: "I'm sorry I'm so stupid", "I'm sorry I have an ASD", "I'm sorry I can't pay attention", etc. When you feel more secure about yourself, you won't need to say it, so much.