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16 Jan 2015, 10:46 am

bearded1 wrote:
I can so communicate by typing. That is odd you say that. I can type and go back and get it out. Getting out of my head through my mouth does not work. Worked with my therapist on that one. I have to email my wife to discuss things. Is that odd? Or normal for aspies?

IME it's quite a common experience. Part of this is that aspies can find it easier communicating online. e.g. email, IRC, AIM, webchat, etc. Whereas NTs can complain about finding these limiting.
Though not sure about using the N-word :)



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16 Jan 2015, 10:50 am

At this point in my life, my communication is pretty good most of the time. But every once in a blue moon I'll have one of episodes where I stumble over words, slurring my speech, even, when I'm stressed. That hasn't happened in nearly two years.


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16 Jan 2015, 10:57 am

Jono wrote:
Fnord wrote:
I have no trouble communicating, but I do find it difficult to get people to take me seriously, especially when I'm trying to warn someone that their thinking is flawed or that their decisions are mistakes.

Although those "I Told You So" moments do make me happy. :wink:


Communication difficulties in AS usually include difficulties in non-verbal communication. Many people with AS don't have much trouble communicating verbally.

Especially where a non verbal channel is absent. In many cases to AS people this is "noise" and dropping it improves S/N ratio.
The term "verbal" dosn't just mean spoken, it includes any form of text and sign language.



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13 Feb 2015, 11:54 am

I've been talking to this guy who has Asperger's and a few days ago he told me that our conversations are uninteresting. Yet he's asked me several times to come and visit him (he and I live in different states). He got upset with me when I told him I was just being nice to him. He told me not to text him anymore and then he called me. He said him and I aren't compatible and that I was the problem and that he doesn't like to show emotion. He said he thought I was nice though. I think now I will just leave him alone I only ever tried to be nice to him because I thought he needed it. After saying how he's been made fun by other people etc. It hurt my feelings but I'll get over it I guess maybe now he'll be done with me.