How much of a problem does nervousness cause for you?

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Indecision, paranoia, and distraction. That's the 3 main problems I have when nervousness is involved.

And overall, it does affect me. Most at the time, when talking all the sudden, and especially confrontations are involved.
Being an occasional dare devil? Fine. Occasional anticipation isn't the same thing. I get to choose it, and I'm likely wont regret it. Even it turned badly, I'll take it.
But people with judging eyes? I'm out of it. I get occasional anxiety instead if they demand talking. Simply because I don't want to get involved or end up dragging myself. I don't like my decisions end up being assessed badly by someone else. But then, I have to.

By physical means, at most I'll lose my control of my senses right at aftershocks.

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It's a problem for me, but not such a bad one overall. The worst thing that happened was one occasion at work when my hands were shaking so much that I couldn't do my job for half an hour. Now I don't work any more, the most acute anxiety has gone, but I still feel nervous about a lot of things - appointments with health professionals and bureaucrats, travelling, independent living (keeping my finances straight, maintaining my home), social things, my health. From the outside I seem to perform pretty well regardless, but nervousness still spoils a lot of happiness for me.

Something I'm curious about is how other peoples anxiety levels impact on the level of nervousness experienced by an anxiety prone individual? For example, if I'm in the company of another person and they panic as a reaction to a small incident it effects my ability to control my anxiety levels, I don't panic with them, but I feel physical changes in my breathing, gut etc and become irritable.

I don't "panic" with the person--but I'm anxious for the person. I wonder how I could alleviate the panic, and I wonder, occasionally, what the person might do in that situation.

I look for solutions; alas, sometimes, solutions don't exist at the moment of panic. Therefore, my "solution" is of no use at that moment. This leads to further frustration, and anxiety, and perhaps even slight panic.

Sometimes other people's anxiety makes me nervous, but occasionally I've noticed that it's actually masked my own nervousness. It tends to be my habit to try to reassure people who seem scared, so I guess when I take on that role it distracts me from my own worries, and if I'm saying reassuring things, I wouldn't make them up, so saying those things probably helps to convince me that things aren't all that dangerous. There's also something comforting about knowing that I'm not the only one who sees a particular danger.

I realise that i suffer from anxiety my whole life, so it's something I'm almost used to it being a part of me. Although it never got any better, it just spiralled as I got older as I learned to live with it. I guess I keep things minimalistic to prevent any unwanted anxieties. Sometimes the best thing I could do was just not care about it any more, but at times I obviously did. I think that I may be paranoid or psychotic sometimes because I can get myself extremely anxious about events and upcoming events. The difference is I'm not constantly thinking about people attacking me. It's just I need telling or showing that situations are not what I thought sometimes, and sometimes I get confused. And as much as I want to socialise most of the time I get the dreaded fear of what to say next. It affects my communication verbally, my thinking, my concentration, I forget things, it makes me anxious to take a pay rise, take on more responsibility's, insomnia, it makes me tired, makes me sweat, makes my vision blurry, makes me feel sick sometimes depending on the intensity, it makes my ears ring, my body starts buzzing, headaches from tension, it makes me depressed and seem lazy, in effect everything where somebody else relies on me, apart from when I am on my own and I have no negative thoughts. I have my own ways of coping which is taking time out for myself, I really enjoy my alone time if it's constructive. I've got to say the only time it feels natural for me to talk is when I am talking and sharing what I learned, non stop. although I don't have a general human hatred because still people seem to amaze me with there enlightening wisdom. And the world is a wonderful place. In affect I've got my worry brain and then I've got my quantum brain, as much as my brain gives me pain it gives me satisfaction. I find it's important to always remember the magical places your brain can take you and to just be able to enjoy the simple things in life. And to enjoy the senses, the stars, complexity of nature, shades, lights, colours, ect in a controlled environment.

Correct me if I am wrong, but is nervousness the same as anxiety? Thanks

Actually... to answer your question, "is nervousness the same as anxiety?"

Not quite but similar. Anxiety is a bit like nervousness on steroids!

I may be nervous about going to a job interview but I may or may not be anxious about it.

If a madman is trying to break into my house with an axe to chop me into little pieces, let me tell you (apart from being scared s**tless), I'm going to be EXTREMELY anxious. I'm not going to be nervous.

Nervous relates more to nerves, in situations dealing with people etc.

Anxiety can be triggered by day to day stuff for us guys but usually anxiety isn't used for day to day interactions by NT's. It's usually reserved for more serious, traumatic occasions.

For us Aspies, every day is traumatic event!