Speech improves when info-dumping

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It probably made her day

I noticed that myself when I get mentally exited I feel like Sherlock Holmes making a deduction, vocabulary increases, awareness increases, my speech speeds up. This happens when info dumping or when I get an adrenaline rush when working fast food, or when watching Sherlock. My mind will race and I have to make a conscious effort to slow my speech down if talking. It feels great at first the adrenaline rush along with the dopamine boost. It becomes mentally euphoric ,but It is not sustainable. When I get excited like this I have to slow down or I will begin to become over stimulated and I crash both mentally and emotionally. I work fast food, as said earlier, and I have to be careful when I become mentally pumped from tthe fast paced adrenaline filled stress not to allow myself to become too excited as it leads me to become over stimulated which is bad. I avoid this by distancing my thoughts from the situation and allowing my mind to wander to a special interest and go into a sort of auto pilot.

It makes sense.

Do you ever reherse or otherwise plan for conversations? (e.g. you need to call a business about a service, or you have a meeting at work, or you have to talk a family member into not doing something that's ticking you off, etc) Having a chance to plan makes a big difference in my communication ability. If I can't plan, I have to think of everything on the fly and it's way too hard. What is the other person saying, and what other factors of the situation should affect my understanding of what they're saying? What did that pronoun mean? What are all my options for expressing my ideas, and how will the other person most likely react to each of those options? How should I word this? Grammar?? How do words even work again??! That's way too much stuff to try to think about during the conversation. Even if the conversation takes an unexpected turn (which is always the case to at least some extent), being able to think about to think about it in advance frees up some "brain energy" which can then be used to actually communicate well.

Anyway, I think when something is an interest for you, all the time you spend thinking about it or reading about it or anything will effectively work the same way as rehersing a conversation, except probably a lot more.

I can't remember the last time when I've said more than a sentence at a time.

Hmmm..... Maybe this is why stutterers don't stutter, when they sing? I've often thought it was because the words were laid-out, for them.....

Raleigh: I think you said something like "harnessing the power for 'regular' conversation"----I agree with those who said to practice. I was gonna add that we spend sooooo much time on our special interests, we need to spend that much time on practicing conversations (though, it will be totally boring)----but, someone, also, already said that----BUT, I might add what I posted, for someone else.....

It might be a good idea to get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side, write a social "thing" (ie. what to say when someone says: "Nice weather, we're having, huh?"); then, on the right side, write the response (ie. "Yeah, I'm really looking forward, to summer!")----stuff, like that. Then, when you've listed, say, at least, 10----and, your responses----just study them every day, so that they just pop in your mind, automatically.

Here's some ideas:

1. See above.

2. "Hey, how 'bout those Mariners, huh?" (If you're in another country, substitute with YOUR country's sports team.) Your response could be (because you've kept-up with pop-culture----even in the most minimal way, just so you are prepared, for this----and, because you said you're good at reading social cues, and will be able to tell whether the person's facial expression / tone-of-voice is negative or positive): "I didn't get to see the game----but, I heard it was EXCELLENT!" (See, by reading / listening to the mornings top news stories, you knew who the Mariners [or, whomever, in your country] WERE----AND, by saying "I didn't see the game", you're cutting-off them asking your opinion about it----BUT, you sounded interested / engaging, in what THEY were saying / interested-in----and, that's, pretty much, all anybody wants, anyway.)

3. "Seen any good movies, lately?"; "Nah, I'm not really that into movies..... How 'bout, YOU----seen anything, really good, lately?" (One never knows----they might mention a movie about robots, or something, and because YOU like them [JUST an example----I obviously don't know what you like], it opens-up a conversation----even though you didn't see the movie.)

4. "Man, I can't remember the last time I had enough money to go-out, to eat!"; "Oh, man----that's a bummer----I can relate----what types of food, do you like to eat?" (This lets the person know you heard them, and also shows you're giving something of yourself, BACK to them.)

5. "OMG, these people are makin' me so sick, I'm about to PUKE!"; (chuckle) "Yeah, I know what you mean----they're not ALL bad, though----at least, I like that they speak their mind----that way, I don't ever have to wonder, where I stand." (Again, you heard the person, are engaging----AND, you might get them to come-down, a little bit, from, possibly, going-off on a tangent, or whatever.)

ALL of these situations may vary, depending on your country----maybe, for instance, there are some things that you've never heard people talk-about, where you are----you have to write on your paper, the most common things you've heard people say, at YOUR location, and then write things that YOU think, will be good responses. Suggestion: Write them, in PENCIL!! LOL