Are aspies perpetually lonely?

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I usually don't feel lonely, I have an understanding family, but I don't have close friends and being in certain social situations make me feel exceptionally alone because I don't belong and I'm different

I've never had many friends. In fact, my mother has never allowed it. Thankfully, I've managed to secretly make friends because of my need to connect with others.

Mostly it's OK, but I think there's something about my autistic mindset that will always give me a feeling of loneliness. Can't have an independent thinking style without some feeling of isolation. Then there's my knowledge of autism that for the most part isn't shareable with others - when I'm with people, they don't know what I'm going through, and most of them never will. And my special interests - I can share some aspects of them, but nobody really feels quite the same way about a lot of the details that fascinate me so much.

As for being lonely in a crowd, how could it be otherwise? Crowds are little more than a dangerous annoyance to me, and the sight of all those people who aren't bonded with me in any way just makes the feelings of isolation more acute.

I've often felt alone, except when I'm with my family (because they're like me). I just can't connect with other people the same. And right now, I'm feeling rather cynical and not very friendly. Part of me wants to talk to people (have in depth conversations) and the other part of me wants to watch the world burn... I'm tired of all the backstabbing, back biting garbage that goes on with being social and I don't want any part of it and don't feel like it's worth the effort to try to find someone in my area who won't try to lie to me and then turn on me.

There is one lady I do playdates with (our sons are the same age) and we've known each other for about 12 years, though I still find myself having a hard time trusting her, even though she's shown herself to be a good friend. I think I've just gotten too jaded... I would love to say I'm fine with being alone, but I'm really not. I do need to talk to people, to bounce ideas off them, to get different perspectives on the world. My curiosity is too much.

No people that aren't in a relationship are perpetually lonely. It just happens to be that many people with ASD are single.

i'm not sure if i've felt lonely in my life. i haven't had any friends or been around anyone besides my parents for five years or so and i don't really care.

I think the only time I am lonely is when I want to discuss my interests. I have difficulty distinguishing between lonely and bored.

I am. Lonely. Always lonely. The type of lonely where you can be around people yet they still feel very far away. They speak and it feels like some foreign language of a world I'll never be part of.

Yes I'm lonely a lot but never when I'm with my wife and/or my kids.
Rest of the time very much so, and I live in perpetual fear of the nts around me.

Enjoying playing through the Uncharted remastered with my wife, on the third one.

I haven't felt lonely until fairly recently when I moved away from my family. Now I feel lonely for the reasons that others have pointed out: loneliness from not really having anyone close to me, and loneliness from being around people who are so different from me that I just can't connect with them.

I'm extremely lonely. When I was younger this used to eat me alive. I'm older now and closer to death so being lonely and alone is okay. I now get to catch up on my reading anyway.

I picked "not lonely and don't need friends" - because I'm just weird that way, and enjoy my solitude. (I actually feel more alone when I'm with people, and don't fit in!) But I do love my family, and enjoy interacting with other people a bit... I just don't 'bond' with anyone properly, and I've learned to accept it.