Something needs to give....

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I know how you feel. I lived alone for a short time and I set aside one day a week to get chores done. Usually Saturday. Cleaning, washing clothes. Other people seem to be able to fit this stuff into their daily routine but I just can't imagine having a full-time job, coping with these daily activities and also socialising. I'm too tired and stressed out just living to have the energy to maintain relationships. I only work part-time (20 hours per week) but I find it consumes my energy and when I'm not working I'm anxious about it. I also live with a parent so I get a lot of stuff taken care of.

I can attest that there was a period in my life where I consistently wanted to die,as I felt useless and burdensome to my family and society,yet even then I also felt that ending my life would be a bigger waste and felt horrible that I would consider it,when many suffer far worse,nevertheless I still struggled with wanting to live at that time.That is no longer the case thank God,though I still have melancholy moments and days.I can relate to wanting to connect yet finding it also a drain.For one thing I think many of us can agree on is that a lack of or a feeling of a lack of community is immensely painfull,sites like these help,though I feel that we need a greater more in-person connection,as I think isolation along with ignorance whether purposefull or otherwise regarding our struggles is in my opinion,the biggest causes of our pain.In regards to societies ignorance,lack of understanding can lead to all kinds of problems,and a refusal to understand is to essentially cast us aside and regards to isolation,if a human being can't make tangible connections to something then that seems to me a recipe for pain and possibly in some cases madness,I myself don't have a perfect fix,in my own case,I would say I found healing in the love and care of others and my faith in Christ,as cheesey as it may sound,but when you feel as if someone genuinely cares for you and wants whats best for you,then you feel that life is worth living,at least I do,in part,thus I think the more we can come together as a community,the better,still I realize it can be easier said than done,still I think if we can strengthen our community and be willing to brave more and more to risk willing to get others to understand and to risk willing to understand others ourselves, can lead to better quality of life,but I think it will take very serious concerted effort for us to make more tangible progress,but I think the key is a willingness to love one another even if we may suffer,as I think that when you feel loved,you have a sense of purpose and satisfaction,thus if we are willing to keep reaching out to others,even in the midst of pain or even if it may cause pain in the short term,I think if we can keep reaching out then eventually it will make a difference because if we refuse to reach out I think we only hurt ourselves.

I think most people who are good at making and keeping friends usually do just do it for fun and don't have to think about the practical side, but then they already have friends when they get in trouble and need support.

I've seen that a lot of NT adults actually have trouble making close friends, especially parents, especially introverts. I think modern society has some characteristics that make it hard. So those of us who are socially disabled are in deep trouble.

I'm lucky to have three close friends and a loving mom, but they tend to struggle too. Two of them can't drive. Two of them have a lot of money trouble. One's always running herself ragged looking after family members. One's about to have a baby. Three of them have executive functioning issues. So I try not to be a burden on them.



Yes, I have exactly this problem and it's unexpectedly difficult.

I've been sharing what I've figured out to do on these forums for nearly 2 years now. Most dismiss me as lying/fabricating/embellishing etc. Meanwhile, there have been several articles published over the last couple of years w/ scientific findings backing my experience. ASD is caused, or exacerbated, by intestinal dybsiosis & is entirely treatable via natural medicines & probiotics. I know because I do it every single day & am happier, healthier, and wealthier for it in this second life I'm living. You, and anyone else reading this, are welcome to pm me to discuss it.