Aspie traits you don't possess

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I am fine with fluorescent lighting

I am very empathetic, and definitely feel that I have "hyper-empathy" with others, but am very disconnected from my own emotions.

I don't have a problem with eye contact.

I think I've successfully learnt what's "normal" in a lot of social situations, so I am able to seem sociable etc, although I don't often enjoy it and it tires me out immensely.

In fact I think this is a big thing with my Aspergers - I'm so aware of appearing "normal" that a lot of things which I would naturally do (talking about my special interests, stimming, hand clapping, etc etc) are only coming out now, because I've been suppressing them for so long. So I didn't think I did them before, but they're actually very much there!

My unique gait seems to drag on the heels instead of on the toes. Maybe that is a trait, though, I don't know.

I don't mind tags on clothes.

Many of the other traits that I can say I don't possess, I find that I've mostly just learned to not do them.

-Not physically clumsy.
-Have 'enough' charm than awkward. (and this isn't something that one-self could assess)
-I don't have (or in a current need for) a false self to cope the outside realm.
-I don't talk about my obsessions, they're all private. I only talk about interests.
-Not sensory intolerant.
-I'm slow with numbers.
-Can detect and do sarcasm.

Still not sure about other traits that I might not have.

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Hmm, I used to think I had less autistic traits than I do, because I wasn't recognising my behaviour as conforming to traits. I have also grown up overcompensating so am able to appear very "normal" for short periods of time and under the right circumstances.
Two big ones that people invalidate me for though are (1) I do not speak with a monotone, even though I think in one. The emotional expressiveness in my voice in no way corresponds to any emotions I feel (because I generally don't.) Same goes for my ability to smile, laugh, etc. I'm usually not happy nor amused, I have just learned that making these sounds and gestures gets people off my back, and now I can't stop doing it, it's programmed in. Plus it probably wouldn't help if I did delete it. This may also be due to the fact I have speech problems and try to overcompensate for that too, I don't know. (2) I love change, and hate routine. If anything stays the same and does not vary significantly for more than between 3 - 6 months usually, I start to feel trapped and stagnated. There is the system I follow, but that system can be adapted for any environment or circumstance and I frequently do so.
A therapist recently told me this behaviour is controlled by trauma, though, so if they are to be believed it is possible that strong enough trauma can overwrite autistic traits / preferences in this instance.

i don't have many sensory issues.

I don't read magazines to learn how to conform. I just read them because they interest me.

Mind you, a lot of women do like to read magazines to keep up with the latest fashion trends, read about celebrity gossip, and find useful tips and such. One time there was even a whole page of tips on how to read body language, how to look more confident in your own body language, how to be more relaxed at parties, and lots of other social tips. And this magazine was aimed at adult NT women. They sometimes have those sorts of tips in newspapers too, funnily enough.

1. I have sensory difficulties--but not as severe as some on this Site

2. Though I had to learn to discern such things as irony and sarcasm, I can discern them pretty well, most of the time.

3. Though I had to learn empathy through my life experience, I believe I have at least some empathy at this point.

4. I have many Aspergian traits--but most don't seem to affect me as far as living my life is concerned. I've been able to make adjustments over the years. I do have my moments, though.

5. I'm pretty okay in practical math--but don't like theoretical math

6. I like science--but I'm not exceptional in it. I find "string theory" to be too theoretical for my tastes. I wish a spaceship could actually go to distant galaxies, so we could learn about the physics THERE, rather than the physics HERE influencing our conception of the physics THERE.

7. I've learned to embrace fiction--though I still like nonfiction best.